my friends are really bothered by my fiance`?

Question

my friends mainly one that i actually care about are upset with me because i dont spend as much time with them as i used to, i used to be out with them every night and now that i got engaged i go out to dinner with them at least once a week and ill go get coffee whenever i can, but i feel as though i am in a relationship with my friend...lol... its kinda annoying because i dont want to hurt her feelings because she is a few years older than me and i know she really wants to be married i dont know what to do any suggestions, we always invite her out with us but she doesnt really come

He is really nice to them, they have no reason not to like him

Answer 1

I'm kind of going through the same situation where my best friend and fiance don't get along at all. This is how i think of it, if this were a true friend, she would understand that when a person is engaged or married, you can't dedicate as much time to her. It's not that you've changed, it's just your priorities are different. At least you're still making the effort to spend time with friends. A reason that you're friend might not be too happy is because she's jealous, or wants what you have. She won't understand that you can't spend as much time with her until she is engaged herself. A couple, especially a serious one, should have time to themselves, THEN time for everyone else. If she doesn't learn to accept it, she's not a true friend.

Answer 2

You have changed the rules of the group. Your friends could be jealous or are unhappy that things won't be the same with the fiance around. They want all your time, not just some of your time. They probably want to keep things just the way they were.

There is nothing you can do, unless you want to call off the engagement....and that really isn't a solution, because as time passes, other friends in the group will start to fall out and have relationships on thier own.

It is all part of growing up and maturing. They can accept your choice to move on with your life, or not. You have to accept that things will never be the same with them.

Good Luck!

C-F

Answer 3

its the friendship that has change they will adapt to the new you give them time. from experience don't try to satisfy them and put your relationship in jeopardy for them because if the shoe was at the other end i can guarantee you that they will do the same(stop going out as much)but, remember you should never totally abandon your friends because when you have a problem guess who you will need? every relationship has its turmoils so always keep your friends your friends i know that things are different but a little time with your friends doesn't hurt remember you will be getting married Wedding preparations need to be made , who do you think will be there for you ?your friends. if they cant understand that things will change then maybe you need to rethink on whom you can call your friends. like i said before give them time

Answer 4

it's wonderful that you're engaged, but it's also wonderful to have friends. if you're happy with your fiancé, why should you care about what they think? sit down and have a talk with your friends. tell them that, although you're engaged, at least you try to make the effort to think about them. if they still don't appreciate your attempts to spend time with them (even if it is just once a week), you don't need them as your friends. friends support each other. obviously these friends don't support you.

Answer 5

They just need to get over it. At least they see you once a week! Geez. She's probably just jealous because she's not in a relationship and you are. I would be careful, maybe she's trying to get you away from your fiancee. She just sounds jealous and self centered. Tell her to go to match.com or something.

Answer 6

give your friends a chance to mature. unfortunately, your best friend is your fiance. and that does pose jealousy. they have been replaced, more than likely permanently. they know they will never have that closeness they had before. sad, but true. friends come and go. some you will keep forever. just be strong. it will get better.

Answer 7

why do you care what your friends say... it is up to you and him. my wife had a friend just like yours... we sat her down and told her that we are happy together and if you don't like it we are sorry to say but we will get married whether you come or not. and believe or not she came and she turned out to be really happy for us... Your friend may just be jealous because you are getting married before she does.

Answer 8

if u really love your fiance' don't worry about what ur friends think. they will come to there senses at some point. don't let them come between u and ur fiance's relationship.

Answer 9

tell them that you relaly love your fiance and that it is important that you spend lots of time with her. start a plan. like what day you hang out with your friend and wat day u hang out with your fiance. tell your fiance that your friend is important to you as she is. if she really love you, she'll understand. best of luck to you!

Answer 10

there jealos. they want to have you to themsleves but you know what? they cant. you have to put boundries. its not fair of them. talk to them about this. you call them friends? i wouldnt...good luck...