I'm so unwilling to do the things I have to and I end up doing only the things I want to. How can I fix this?
2006-12-26 11:17:30 · 18 answers · asked by maggie 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Try the fact that the primary person responsible for you- IS YOU. If you won't stand on your own feet, you are dumping responsibility on others. That means you lack pride, self esteem, character.
Want those things? Want the feeling that comes from being proud of who you are?
Then- do the things that would make you proud of yourself. Or- settle for being a loser/user.
2006-12-26 11:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by spiritgide41 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The very fact that you want to change your pattern of behaviour means you are half way to doing so.
The way I cope is to have only one thing at a time on my 'got to do list' that way I don't get overburdened with guilt because there is a long, never ending list of 'got to do things' on my desk. It's not a perfect system but it works reasonably well for me.
Finally, too much so-called self-discipline is as bad as too little, so keep cool!
2006-12-26 12:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by vagabonde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!. Good Q. I've always had great self control and discipline. But nothing comes into my mind as to a answer for you. Just don't sit down. And do something other than watch TV.
2006-12-26 11:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I convince myself that it is a live or die situation. I pretend that if I don't do it I'll die. That's as grave a situation as you can get. That's how I get myself to do a workout every morning as soon as I get out of the bed. I can't miss a day cause them I'm thinking about strokes, heart attacks, clogging arteries, you know. I guess I'm a little extreme, but it works for me.
Have a great New Year!
2006-12-27 06:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunger/cold/heat all create the need to do for the self.
If doing hwat you want gets what you need why worry?
Get rid of the 'should dos' and enter in the I will do.
Should dos, or be doings are what other people expect form looking at you.
So get looking at YOU and into I will do for me!
2006-12-27 02:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by jupiteress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick one or two things you want to accomplish for the next day. Don't make the list too long or you will give up, but anyone can do an item or two.
2006-12-26 16:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
grew to become into thinking did you intend to have a newborn that early? i think of you're somewhat large as a mom. my mom did no longer worry spending time with me then. i'm having a similar loss of motivation to learn, and that i'm in college. It quite sucks to preserve each and every thing your self
2016-11-23 18:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thought that helped built my self discipline was i have to accept doing the errands because if i didn't do them,i'll never finish and be responsible for myself.
2006-12-26 11:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by christina p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I look out my door, down my street and see neighbours with plasmas, nice cars, plently of beer to drink, a supply of fags and lovely houses...................and they're on benefits..................
..................I am driven and disciplined to actually work for what I've got!
Just think of the pleasure you'll get from work that YOU'VE done, even if it's round the house, YOU'VE acheived that goal you found it difficult to start............good luck
2006-12-26 11:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
know the pigs get $5,000.00 for the first DUI and $20,000.00 if you screw up and get a second one, big brother lives to help people who have just a little loss of how to lock-step-methodologies
2006-12-26 11:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋