what will make him last longer?

Question

i want to know if anyone knows what will make sex last longer with my husband? has anyone tried creams and if so do they work??? i am deperate because our sex life sucks... the last time was only 2 1/2 minutes and this has become our average... we're lucky if we get 5 minutes and we're only 26...please help

Answer 1

You're going down the wrong path. You never want to cultivate the sex drive in your husband, or pour kerosene on the fire. It's better that it's accomplished quickly.

You need to stop listening to liberal psychologists and sexologists. They don't know a thing and they're completely stupid.

And also don't listen to the people on this board, who really don't have a lot of understanding, either.

P.S. Don't buy into the "female orgasm" mentality. Sex for women is mainly for having children, and there's normally not an overwhelming drive, otherwise men would be selling thier bodies to women and not vice versa.

Answer 2

1) 2 minutes is average. Few men break that point. You've been watching too many movies. (People take 100-yard pistol shots in movies too, but pistol range is really more like 20 yards -- and that's if you practice EVERY DAY!)

2) If you're timing him with a clock, you are making him SO anxious that of course he's gonna finish "early".

3) This is how *I* am able to go for way longer than 2 minutes: Read about Tantra. You may think you know what it is, but you probalby don't. The West has totally distorted it into a porno kind of thing, but the truth is that it only works among long-term couples. I read a lot about it online, filtering through helpful stuff and bullsh*t. If you need a book, DO NOT get the Kama Sutra -- there is nothing about Tantra in that book.Try "The Art of Sexual Ecstasy" by Margo Anand. If you can get past the new-agey mumbo-jumbo and see the useful, practical stuff in there, it might be helpful to you!

4) Yes, the second time DOES last WAY longer. In fact, I almost never finish the second time -- both she and I tire out and collapse. The two things that help me get hard again are intense kissing on the mouth, and when she squeezes me while I'm still inside her (squeeze the muscle you use to stop going pee in the middle of it). Even so, it's still hard to get hard again RIGHT AFTER you've just come. Best thing you can do for THAT is get him off once, then have HIM go down on YOU for a while. That way he'll be making you hotter while he is recovering for the second run!

5) The more a woman attracts me, the less time I last. The difference is staggering. Hot women just make me finish almost IMMEDIATELY!

Answer 3

Don't take this as a horrible thing on his part...This usually means that you excite him that much..You feel great to him...
Yes you need to come up with a solution but putting him down about it will never work all that will do is frustrate both of you and he will be even more nervous during sex which can not help..
So my advice would be to console him as best as possible, and if it was me I would get him off then do something that really turns him on to get him hard again as soon as possible after he is done, the second time should last longer..Try this multiple times with out getting frustrated or upset...If it still does not work he should go see a doctor it might be a little nerve racking but I am sure he will have great suggestions. Don't mention going to the doctor until you try the first thing I said, oh and d i c k rings might help also!!

Answer 4

well the squeeze method works great

just about when he is ready to cu m grab him by the base and squeeze really hard, till he quits pumping, this will do 2 things make him harder and stop him from cumming, continue to do this over time and he wil last longer

another method that works for me, right when i am about to cu m i slow my strokes down, i do c um, but at the right pace i stay rock hard and can run this out for 5 or 6 of my own orgasms
and an hour and a half later my gal has had more than enough ;-)


another thing that works 1st go down on him and finish the mission, then have him go down on you and have him finish the mission, by then he will be ready for round 2 and he will last alot longer

Answer 5

Well, I've been in this situation as well. Creams are stupid and don't work. My best tactic has been to get the first one out of the way. If you don't want to do this with intercourse, then perform oral sex until he orgasms. Give him a few minutes and then have sex! This has worked for me and my boyfriend, who used to be a bit quick. I'm sure your husband knows this is an issue, and this is a good way to go about things if you don't want to have to keep bringing it up. It can be kind of sexy too. There's nothing wrong with mandatory foreplay, and what guy doesn't love oral sex?
Of course, this sometimes leads to the never-ending sex scenario, but if he's really interested in pleasing you, and I'm sure he is, he'll probably be okay with stopping once you orgasm since he's already climaxed as well. good luck!

Answer 6

Do it more than once a day and because of the fact he is shooting every time, it will make him take longer for him to shoot each time he gets his gun (shoot). Remember practice makes perfect. Keep having sex and try not to laps with days in between or you'll be back to the two minute man. I know, my wife used to call me quicksdraw (quick to the draw and quick to shoot), In time his endurance should build up and it will prove to be more enjoyable for the both of you (maybe even marathon sex). I'll bet it used to only take me a minute (It feels so good!), now she says are you going to finish soon (I average about a half hour now). Anyway good luck to both of you and keep on keeping on.

Answer 7

How long have you been together? From my experience long distance relationships typically dont work but it really matters how far apart you are from eachother and how much you love eachother. Is there trust in the relationship? If you can join her in her city then i would if I really cared about her and about holding the relationship together. Because you may be far away and not be able to see eachother often that can cause stress in relationships. They need a lot of time and effort and if the distance prohibits you from doing that it prob wont work

Answer 8

Please don't take this wrong....but if you are using drugs or liquor, prolong use will do this. Some medication will do it as far as side effects such as anti-depressants. You did not say how long you have been married, but i have been for 13...and you have to spice it up a little. Try playing strangers. Meet him at a bar...act like you just met...go home...and play the role out....if it works then you lost nothing...but you gained a quick cheap thrill. If all else fails...let him go to dr alone sure its leaning on his ego a bit, and they have plenty of enhancements...just watch TV and you will be sure to see one. happy endings.

Answer 9

Talk to him about it...some guys can hold out for long periods of time by just practicing and not allowing themselves to orgasm...a c0ck ring might help also...or one of the meds commonly used for ED (viagra, cialis, etc) to help keep his erection longer...

Have more foreplay...if he feels he's about to orgasm, have him stop and do something else until that urge goes away, then go back to intercourse...

Is this a new issue or an old one you've just gotten tired of?

Answer 10

My fiancee and I have the same problem. He even tried viagra the other day and I told him it wouldn't work because his problem is LASTING not getting an erection. Our sex life sucks as well and I hate to say this but if it doesn't improve, I don't think we'll make it. I think he makes himself ***.....he has never been a very sexual person....on the other hand, I am a freak and am down for anything. I'll try anything once......good luck.....creams don't work because I believe it's mental.....

Answer 11

Try getting him to engage is more foreplay for you. Have him get you off first, be creative and then you will both feel more relaxed and maybe eventually it will last longer.