Hi everyone. I am having a situation at my place of employement. Background is that I tried to become friends with this person that I work with, and I kept pushing, and pushing to the point that she is having a hard time even talking to me. I was basically a pushy *** and didn't want to accept that she didn't want to be friends with me. We sit next to each other in a small group, and all day I hear her talking with my other coworkers in a friendly way. However, she will not do this with me at all. I try to talk with her as normal, but I receive looks as if to say - please go away and die or something. I have tried to make amends to her, and I have told her repeatedly that I was sorry for everything I did, but that I cannot take back what I did even though I wish very much that I could. My question is how and what can I do to get her to just change her opinion of me to the way it used to be. It is very uncomfortable for me. I care about her and want the best for her. Please
2006-12-26 10:54:55 · 7 answers · asked by Ian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all you cannot change anyone's opinion. Opinion changing is the job of the opinion holder. Conversely, you have the privilege to manage your own opinion too.
Secondly, if you were sincere about the apology for whatever it was you did than you are free to move on. Her current rudeness is on HER not you.
I think it is safe to say that you are right. You are apparently not her cup of tea. Here's the good news. If you can forgive HER for not liking you, then you will be even freer to be yourself. YIPPEEE!!
This dynamic was true in my own life, only it was my own sisters who did not like me. When my dad died, it all became very clear that they did not like me at all.
For a time I mourned over the loss but once I realized that not everyone is going to adore me, I began to really enjoy the friendships that came easily and didn't invest loads of time on relationships where I wasn't valued.
It seems that your closest friends, though imperfect, should at the very minimum enjoy your company. They should choose you as eagerly as you choose them.
Even the most perfect friend of all time, Jesus spent the bulk of his time with people who valued him and could learn from Him. He sees your value.
You are of great worth to God, let her fight it out with Him. Be kind to her but, with confidence, move on...Make sense?
God Bless you...
2006-12-26 11:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by NewEnglandLife Mapping 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that at this time there may be something about you that has turned her off or away. Doesn't mean its permanent. Drop any boastful or self righteous attitude, look her straight in the eyes and tell her that your sorry for damaging the friendship. Then just be polite from day to day and let her have her space. She what tomorrow brings. Good luck
2006-12-26 11:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homie, Ignore her back, dont treat her like anything, and in fact, make friends with her friends. That should snap her out of it. If you didn't allready blow it, she'll come around and start wanting to talk to you. Problem is, most girls don't like desperate sounding guys. And bro-you sound desperate. Just kick back and be friendly to everyone. NOT JUST HER! When she does come around, dont just cave in and go back to your old needy ways again, relax, and enjoy the ride. ARE WE THERE YET< ARE WE THERE YET! Sounds annoying doesn't it? So stop annoying her, and if you are a good guy, she'll see it.
Good Luck!
2006-12-26 11:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Long Beach Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
purely think of roughly if the reason you're so mad at her is nicely worth dropping her friendship continuously. additionally could she forgive you in case you had betrayed her. Forgiving is a stressful technique. it form of feels as in case you have forgiven her yet you may't ignore. this is like relationships, you may't ignore through fact it replaced right into a factor of your existence, yet you may get exceeded it. each and every person is in our lives for distinctive motives. issues take place in our lives for motives, would desire to be to make you better. attempt giving her a decision, and not with an attitude. in case you incredibly omit her as your chum, purely tell her you forgive her, and does not recommendations engaged on development your friendship for the greater advantageous.
2016-12-11 16:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you told her you were sorry and she has not accepted it then just leave her alone, go there to make your money and go home. She just does not want anything to do with you. i you keep pushing it then it could be harassment. sorry to say that is all you can do, maybe she'll come around eventually, but for now just leave her be.
2006-12-26 11:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep pushing your self on someone it just makes it 10 times worse leave her alone you can't make some one like you!! i have to deal with some one like that at work i can't stand her and she act's like she does'nt have a clue or fault ( i know i have plenty but i am not the one bugging her !) if you give her some space and let her work it out don't make her feel stalked
2006-12-26 11:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tina Tegarden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you apologized let it go...
2006-12-26 10:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋