V. worried. On the pill but think I'm pregnant with third child. Worried of possible consequences to baby?

Question

Hi, just got out of bed Im so worried about this. Not a question more want advice/an ear. Take the pill religiously but had a bit of bad tummy - throwing up only like twice tho, last month. I'm over 2weeks late, which is V. unusual for me. Already got 2 fab children, I mean I would have a third if I am preg but pill leaflet says minipill can cause limb defects etc. in foetus, other damage etc. Now I've started to worry, don't think I could carry on preg. My partner can't handle upsetting things. He gets snappy, very hard to deal with at all. Drinks too much, picks little arguments etc. Don't want to worry him unnecessarily

Going to do a test tomorow I've decided but pill box says discuss with GP about carrying on with such a pregnancy. No one to talk to, sadly can't trust any family etc. not to gossip. I'm thinking if am preg, do I wait for 3mth scan, see if alls well, keep quiet and hang out for 20wk scan? I don't show much hiding it's not a prob. Anybody had any exper. like this?

in response: we're 'engaged' and I've taken his name already. I'm just not that bothered about the actual marrying him
and he drinks more when they're in bed not like flat on out couch in front of them!

sorry Worlds Biggest St. Helens Fan just had to respond! Sorry you don't actually know what you're talking about AT ALL do you? it's not that uncommon, and pill taken correctly is still only about 98% effective. Statistically?! sorry have you studied it? My sister is a doctor, she can tell you it is possible thankyou. And no can't tell her she shares EVERYTHING with her gossipy husband.

And everybody, problem is not partner! he can't handle stress out of the blue, he has his stomping round, moody days then he gets over it thats all! He doesn't need the upset right now. Hardly abusive realtionship!

Answer 1

First, you need a definite upgrade in "partner", one that will MARRY you and not "...gets snappy, very hard to deal with at all. Drinks too much, picks little arguments etc." I think you're in an abusive relationship, and THAT will DEFINITELY harm children.

Second, my youngest daughter, age 21, is a pill baby. Oops. She's now a Airman First class in the USAF, and has half of her college done. I'm pretty sure that the pill scares are published as a "cover our legal a**" warning.

Seriously -- you need to resolve that partner issue. My warning bells went off when you wrote those things.

Answer 2

1] stop taking the pill ( i expect you have already done that )
Go to your Doctor and tell him of your fears .

2] do not get so worried , the limb defects are extrema rare
3] this baby is a life ,and has a right to live
4]we all want perfect children , Give this new baby a chance
5] so, let nature take its course
6] if your fiance is an alcoholic, a new baby will not make him better or worse .
7]it is just possible that you are not pregnant ,but have missed your period as you have been ill.

You should not have to hide your pregnancy , that is so sad !
I am sure you are seriously, thinking about the sort of Dad your fiance is going to be .
from an outside viewpoint ,i would be thinking of showing him the door .
I do not mean to be unkind , i wish you well ,for the future.
. >^,,^<

Answer 3

Hi - I kknow how it feels when you dont have someone that you can talk to and trust especially when you can't use a family member, I sympathise with you.

Your first step is to go to your GP and speak to them about your concerns of pregnancy - even discussing the fact you don't want to cause any undue stress with your partner over this and that you have no-one that you can talk to. They should speak to you about stopping the pill and running a pregnancy test. Also they could counsel you on other forms of contraception should you end up not being pregnant. I had problems with the pill and have 2 kids as a result but as soon as I thought I was pregnant I stopped taking it to beon the safe side. As you have had children - research the Mirena IUCD - this is fantastic and releases a hormone ( I have had 3 of these now ). Check out the website below its one I give all my female friends.

If you are going to do a Hpme Test - make sure you do this first thing in the morning when the pregnancy hormone is more concerntrated in your urine.

I wish you so much luck and hope all works out for you.

Answer 4

I find myself being more concerned about your relationship as are some others here! If you are worried he should be your MAIN support. He's not a child that needs protecting from the sometimes harsh facts of life and you should not have to treat him as if he was!
I can understand your worries but it wont change the outcome and no-one can predict what the outcome will be!
Do the test and if positive stop taking the pills and make an appointment with your Doctor. He/She is the one to discuss it with as the leaflet says.(Take the leaflet with you) There are side effects to any drug and so all leaflets have to print warnings (Other-wise they could be sued) The chances of becoming pregnant are very small and severe side effects are even rarer.
If you are pregnant the Doctor will do any tests needed to determine if the baby is OK and be able to give advice on whether you should carry on with the pregnancy.

Answer 5

Relax. Stop worrying. Maybe you are pregnant, maybe not. If you are, remember that every baby is a Gift - a Gift from God. He will have already decided upon it's fate - so you don't need to fret any more. I think that you just need some one to talk to, and it is sad for you that you cannot call upon your family. I really respect you for not wanting to involve your partner at this early stage, just incase you are worrying needlessly and you are not even pregnant. But, wouldn't he really want to share these concerns with you? Maybe you could find a quiet time to chat to him, when the other children are not around and when he is not tired or irritable. Take care of your self, rest and eat well - and accept the outcome happily. If you are pregnant at this time - then you are meant to be. Good luck.

Answer 6

Most pills will NOT cause the problems that are listed. They are actually very rare. Take a pregnancy test and if it comes up + quit taking the pill ASAP. Taking it until you find out for sure won't hurt anything.

Also, Your partner needs to find another way to deal with stress. Letting your children see him like that is not good for them. They will learn that alcohol is the only way to deal with problems.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Lots of people have taken the pill right through a pregnancy,they didnt know they were pregnant and all has been well.

Id be more worried about having such an unsupportive partner,he sounds awful,and your worried about worrying him,huh,so you have to worry on your own.

Answer 9

It probably would not affect the baby, if you are pregnant that is. Get a test and find out for sure. No point fretting over something which you don't even know is there or not.

Answer 10

don't worry about it, problems with pregnancy only usually occur with continued taking of pills, alcohol etc, phone the midwife in the morning and get advice from her, she has probably had this question asked her hundreds of times. You and your baby will be fine, and congratulations.