Been with a Guy A for over 4 years,we are in love, but hes not ready to move to the next step. Guy B known and liked for over a year. Everything just seems to click wonderful with him. Guy A, is great, and everything is comfortable but not ready to grown up. Guy B, knows im with Guy A, but still wont give up, thinks we are meant to be.
Do i leave the guy im comfortable with, for something that could be 10 times better or worst, dont know.
Please Help!!!
2006-12-26 10:50:49 · 18 answers · asked by unknown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do what you think is best.Look at the amount and time and effort and love you have put into both relationships and think about not only your happiness now but in the future and think about the way both guys treat you choose wisely.
2006-12-26 10:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by tt_hot_gyal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were really ready and he was ready to stay together and be commited you wouldnt be wondering about another guy.
If you truelly want to try and work things out with the guy your with find out what the reasons are that he is not ready to move to the next level with you.. It could be he is sensing that you have feelings for someone else as well.
If you feel that you want more than what the guy your with can or will give to the relationship and you have discussed it with him it maybe time to move on.
Look within yourself to see what you really want and if just being comfortable is enough?? If you really care about the other guy and see more coming out of a relationship with him then you are never gonna know if you dont jump off the fence and take a chance of being happy. good luck.
2006-12-26 11:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! What a jam! I've been there MANY MANY times. Sometimes with 4 or 5 people I have to chose from. Here is my advise.....Guy A doesn't want to get married? Thats Ok, alot of guys don't. It depends on your age as well. Are YOU ready to get married? If you are, then you need to talk to Guy A about your desire. If he doesn't feel the same way, then you need to re-evaluate your feelings for him. Guy B needs to realize that you are in a relationship, and he needs to respect that. If you let him know this, and he still persists. Cut ties with him! You don't need that extra pressure. You have enough to worry about. I know he has been your friend for a long time, but if he is going to put you through all this emotional stress, you don't need that! Good Luck!
2006-12-26 10:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by silver_orangecheetah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy. Do you stay with a boring job that is easy and UN challenging just because its easy and UN challenging?And Stay even though you know you can and would do better at the other job and possibly come to make alot more for it all????
The answer is no. No one in life lives happily ever after in anything that isn't what they always hoped and worked for right?? That would be living day by day and in no way the same thing.
Remember one thing,..If there is anything in life you truly want and feel you need to have, there's only one way to get it. Get off your butt and go for it.
You already know you want guy B so stop asking for approval and stand up for what you know is best for you.
Good Luck :)
2006-12-26 11:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on your life goals. Do you want to be married? Do you want a family? In either case, since you can't make up your mind I'd say you start looking for Guy C. Because you will know, without any doubt, when the right man has come along!
2006-12-26 10:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u said that guyA is not ready to move to the next step, so tell me why would u want to be in a relationship that is not going anywhere. i would not say leave guyA for guyB b/c u don't know what he is like. if u do break it off with guyA don't jump into a relationship right away with guyB b/c u will b hurting urself. take time to set gaols on what u want in the next relationship. pray on it too. wish u all the best.
2006-12-26 11:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're better off w/ someone who you can have a serious thing with than to be wasting your time w/ someone who no longer excites you. Plus if he's not willing to grow up after 4 years it's time to get a reality check & get on with it. Plus it's easier for you b/c you've got a great guy who you're into waiting for you. But he's not going to wait forever.
2006-12-26 10:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Mishee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave guy A. You've given him 4 years - how many more years of your life do you really have to give? Even if guy B doesn't work out, you won't be living your life with a big WHAT IF! Maybe guy C will fulfill your dreams?!?
2006-12-26 10:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You already know the answer to this question.
Guy A will never move.
Remember: If you have a sweater in your closet and you don't wear it for a year, give it away so somebody else can wear it. Same thing applies to a guy. Four years? Yikes.
2006-12-26 10:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you obviously are not in love with either guy, cause if you were you would completely leave one relationship for the other. the reality of this situation seems to be that you are too concern with your wants and needs and are not worried about the feelings and needs of either guy.
what makes you feel like you deserve for guy A to commit to you when you have already prepared his replacement?
2006-12-26 11:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋