2006-12-26 10:47:35 · 18 answers · asked by the sun should burn out tommorow 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im still married to him
2006-12-26 10:51:33 · update #1
o and im 20 and pregnant with his third kid by me
2006-12-26 11:04:23 · update #2
i dont talkto her about. she told her granma about what she saw and then she asked me why he hurts me
2006-12-26 11:15:46 · update #3
Im not sure how you would tell them but my ecperience is this, my step dad beat my mom for as long as i could remember, she never had to tell me anything because i seen it all. seeing this i always said i would never let a guy treat me like that, but when my boyfriend started acting just like my step dad i didnt know what to do because that was all i knew. So i guess what im trying to say here is to get out of the realtionship and stress to your step daughter that realtionships are not supposed to be that way and that its not right, or she will probably grow up and end up in an abusive realtionship herself....
2006-12-26 10:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that this is some event from the past here and not happening on an ongoing basis...
Tell her to be very careful never to stay in an abusive relationship, but leave any details of what her father did out of it. She won't want to hear that and there's no way that she or you will benefit from that communication.
2006-12-26 18:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should gently explain that what she saw was not right. When people love each other they don't hurt each other. Sometimes words hurt and sometimes hitting hurts and neither are right. Tell her she is beautiful beyond words and should never allow anyone to hurt her in those ways.
As for you, you two need counseling. There are places that offer free counseling such as Universities (psychology departments)...The behavior between you and your husband will also affect your other children. We must think about them as well.
2006-12-26 19:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? If she's under 11, I say leave her be. If she's older, then tell her what's going on because she deserves to know, afterall she is part of the family.
I think you should get help because it's not healthy to be beat when really you didn't do anything. =\
2006-12-26 20:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell her, just leave. Your stepdaughter may be aware of it. Domestic violence is serious and can be fatal (death). You can talk to her about it to let her know that you refuse to stay in a marriage with this type of bahavior. Walk away to save your mental health, physical health and most importantly your life.
2006-12-26 18:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U Need To Leave Him And Take Everything Important to you With Him
2006-12-26 20:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by nicnoo23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is not normal behavior for a man to beat anyone that they claim to love and that if he ever beats/abuses her that she needs to let her mom, school couselor, or another family member know. Then you leave and make sure she knows how to contact you so she can come to you for help if she needs it.
2006-12-26 18:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why are you still with this man? take your stepdaughter and get the heck out of there. witnessing this is obviously not healthy for her nor for the baby growing inside of you.
2006-12-26 23:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by hwlatmon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Your actions speak louder then any words could and staying in an abusive marriage isn't setting a very good example for her. Good luck.
2006-12-26 18:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel the need to share that with her in the first place. It seems like you are using her to get things off your chest. If you need help call your local domestic violence hotline or shelter. dont involve a child in your needyness.
2006-12-26 19:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋