i have been w/ this guy now for the past 6 months, i can honestly say that i have grown not only to love him but also to appreciate all he does for myself and my two kid's. we have alot in common and really enjoy being together anywhere from being at home doing chores to a day at disney w/ our kid's. However, we do have some pitt fall's one major stobborned wart like issue, being his " Ex- wife". i am not one to judge but this one is a real charm. every thing from hacking in to his bank account and transferring his money in to her account to having her two boy's secretly search the house for grandma's old jewlery she left to her son when she past a little over a year ago.(when boy's are over for the their weekend w/ dad) the latest was this past Monday being X-mas she had the gull to knock on the front door to give my fiancee a x-mas gift . being baked good's and a pair of boxer's. lol! how cheesey! and rude! i was well aware of that being her way of trying to ruin our x-mas
2006-12-26 10:43:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you tell me where is the control and where is there abuse, and we will then continue.
2006-12-26 10:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I would be very upset not at the cookies but at the boxer underwear. Sounds as though she likes to stir up trouble. Do not allow her to have space in your head. That is exactly what she wants is to stir up trouble and have both of you thinking about her. She sounds like a real winner. I would also be afraid of what she put in those cookies as well. Your husband needs to have a talk with her and tell her that he does not want any of those items from her. He needs to explain to her how much he loves you and how disrespectful she was by buying those underwear for him. If I was him I would make her feel really stupid for doing such an idiotic thing. As far as the account and the things that she had stolen someone needs to take some legal action so she stops this foolishness. Good luck with you and your husband and hopefully that skank will seek some councelling and start looking at herself.
2006-12-26 10:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As far as her hacking into his bank account that is stealing and he should have her charged. Unfortunately his 2 boys are a different story. He really needs to sit down with them and have a serious talk. Being very careful ofcourse not to look like a nasty person in their eyes and not belittling their mother but explaining the difference between right and wrong. His boys will always be a big part of his life so you all need to get along and be able to trust one another. As far as his Ex goes, she needs to get a life and stay out of yours. She obviously knows how to get under your skin and will continue to do so unless your fiance stands up to her and tells her to stay the hell away and stop annoying your happy home. His Ex is really his problem, don't allow him to make it yours. She will only be able to annoy the two of you if he allows her to. Did he accept her xmas present ?? Perhaps he should have told her there and then, thanks but no thanks. Good luck for your future happiness. I hope everything works out for you all.
2006-12-26 11:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might just have to write off the idea of living the rest of your life in a calm, peaceful, drama-free way. If you stay with him, expect years and years of the same abuse. I hope this wonderful man is worth all that. Too bad he didn't clean up his mess before exposing another woman and 2 innocent children to it.
2006-12-26 10:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is with the ex-wife and his two kids, which will NEVER change. So if he is too weak to stand up to her, then get used to it it will NOT change no matter how much it pisses you off.
You need to raise your kids now, and stop bringing men/dates in and out of their life. But it sounds like you enjoy the drama with this guy and his ex.
2006-12-26 10:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by mscyngrim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only able to do to him what he allows.
He can talk to his boys and tell them she is using them to cause problems and that he wants a good relationship with them not a sneaky one. And he doesnt have to acept gifts from her. He can also have her arrested for breaking into his account. Its a federal offense and she could spend years in prison. Easily solved if he wants to.
2006-12-26 10:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't eat the baked goods, they might have poison in them!
2006-12-26 11:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only continue as long as he allows it. It is not up to you, it is up too him.
2006-12-26 10:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋