husband keeps asking?

Question

my husband keeps asking me to try anal sex ive told him over and over again that i dont wont to but he still keeps going on about it any body got any sugestions on how i can stop him from pestering me about it , i no alot of people do an enjoy it but its not for me . thanks

Answer 1

Cant really offer advice but more support don't let him win if your against it stay strong but I try and find were his obsesson has come. Just watch for him going elsewhere, at least you'll know how much he cares if he lets it drop he has respect. An this is coming from a bloke as well.

Answer 2

If you have not tried it with him then I think you should suck it up and do it for him...You would want him to explore new sexual boundaries if you were interested...It doesn't kill you to try...Look into it read a book or look online on how to get the most pleasure out of it...You never know you might actually like it, and if you don't then so what you proved to your husband that you are willing to explore new things and it could cause a whole new realm of experiments in the bed...Might changed both of your sex lives for the best..
And I must say if he is asking you and you are refusing what do you think will happen when another women tells him she loves it ? Obviously, he feel the urge or he wouldn't be bothering you with it even ofter the rejection you've given him...

Answer 3

How do you know it's not for you? Have you tried it? If you have - then it's cool - just tell him no and repeat until he finally gets it.

If you haven't then consider giving it a try - together and make sure he takes it very slow and uses a lot of lube. You never know, a forbidden leap of faith like this might just be what it takes to put some amazing fire into the bedroom.

Good luck and think about this - you married to make eachother's dreams come true. Try not to place any limits on what you'll do to make each other happy unless you absolutely have to.

Answer 4

You should be glad that your husband is able to tell you his "wants" are.

Many women would try anal sex once just for their husband's sake. Once you've done it, you can honestly tell your husband that you don't like it and he should respect you.

I know, I know, many of you are probably saying, he should respect you the first time. we're all humans. some of us want to explore new depth while other don't. a marriage is a journey where you both can explore the unknown. Anal sex is not an "unknown" activity for most people. ;)

Answer 5

Ah this one wont go away just cos you keep saying no. Why cos he's got it into his head that he can nag you into it once, and once that's done you'll stop refusing him. Here's what you do! (That's if you're brave) Tell him that it isn't your first choice of pleasure but you are willing to compromise. You'll do it but only if he demostrates it doesn't hurt by letting a bloke do it to him, while you watch. You chose the bloke. There's a 80% chance he will never ask again. But can you risk it?

Answer 6

Approach him with something he doesn't like. What food does he detest more than any other? Cook it for dinner 3 nights a week. Tell him you like it and so should he. Keep pestering him about it. tell him if he eats the crud for a month you will have anal sex with him. He will get the idea unless he's totally stupid. Make SURE he cant tolerate the food or you will be in trouble. LOL

Answer 7

I guess he's frustrated because you've dicounted something without ever trying, it means you're telling him he will have to go his whole life never trying something he wants as he doesn't want to be with anyone but his wife.That's hard to take. Are you sure you mightn't like it? You never know. You could always say no after you've tried, but once isn't enough as it takes a while to master and enjoy, (I am reliably told)

Answer 8

It seems he is almost trying to bully you into doing this.

I think you need to sit down & try to understand why he is so desperate to do this with you. You can then explain calmly why you don't like it, & why you will never change your mind.

To me your husband shows a complete lack of respect for you.

Answer 9

You just need to tell him, you are firm in your decision. You do not like the idea and you will not change your mind. However, I don't think he is going to change his mind either, he is still going to continue to ask you. I would not allow it to bother me, so what if he keeps asking, you can keep saying no. He is just hoping one day will be the right day and you will say yes. God bless****

Answer 10

Just say no, and that you will not change your mind just cos he keeps asking and the more he asks the more irritated you get with him. Sounds like a child.