I've dated on-line one guy, e told me he liked me so very much but then just stopped replying my letters and going on msn! I've written a lot of letters to him where I asked him to stay with me but he didn't reply! At first he did, he told he was busy and he that he thought of me but then he stopped... It has passed several monthes and this Christmas as it's such a day of love I decided to write him a Christmas comment on myspace. I've written it in his own language the one I've learnt while we didn't contact... And it was so red and with hearts :S and actually so sweet. If I had recieved it from the worst person in the world I would defenitely reply! But he didn't...
And he has checked his myspace page oly today and besides me there was one other girl who has siply wished him Christmas even after it's over and my comment looks really crazy (being with so many hearts but that was from my heart!) together with hers small... but he didn't reply on her comment too while he ALWAYS replied to her no matter what! I guess that's because he saw my message and that made him think... but anyway I know he won't reply as always and this makes me sad and even angry on myself that I've done this!!! I wanted to change all my names in all messages into bad words after that but decided that will make things worth? How do you think? Am I right? And what can we do when we have a bad mood? Think of this or try to forget? I wonder if we try to forget will it come out later or will it really be forgotten and better not to disturb it!!! And what else interesting... I felt when that guy has read that message!!! I just had a very strong thought of him that moment while I was in the bath and I KNEW that was because he's read that or maybe because he thought of me after reading... And when I came out it appeared to be true... Anyway tell me please everything you think of this! This will help me to come over this I guess... or to think of something else... I even wanted to send a Christmas postcard to this guy as he once gave me his address and I've bought it but didn't send... What do you think about my question and everything else here?
Thank you for your help and for reading!!!
Good luck,
Maria
2006-12-26 10:27:12 · 8 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
This has become my favorite expression: The Judgment is negative, the Will is positive. The Will needs sustenance more needily than the Judgment. Your Will now has more strength than your judgment and this is a very good thing for you until you use it gone chasing this guy. Don't waste another drop of your precious spirit and become a sad judge for your dream person. Take back the energies from your dream person for your spirit for hope in life and meet real people in a real way. Not for one reason but for every reason. The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative.
2006-12-26 10:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very thankful you did not marry this guy and have kids. An online relationship breaking up is about as painless as it gets, no matter how painful it seems at the moment.
It takes two to have a relationship, and one person cannot do it alone, otherwise one of several famous actresses would have married me years ago ;-).
I would bet that there is a sweet guy that you have barely noticed who would really work at a relationship. If you do not already know him, you will meet him soon. Be careful that he really is a sweet guy and then be caring, thoughtful, and prepared, to work hard on the relationship as well. The result could very much surprise you.
2006-12-26 13:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dragon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well , hun, if you only had online contact with this person, you were not dating him! unless you met in person and went out on a date,,, you were having a online relationship,,,, which appears that he has decided to end,,,,,, its best to move on,,,, do not put so much thought and caring into someone you only know online,,,,,,, while you can develop friendships, you should leave it at that,,,,,,, unless something seems to develop and you meet in a safe place, with other people,,,,,,, also dont give out your personal info, address , etc,,,
dont feel bad about leaving him a Christmas message, you meant if from your heart,,,,, just let that be all that you do,,,, if he is interested, he will contact you, via im or myspace,,,,,,
2006-12-26 11:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok...look, the fact that he didnt reply to the other girls comment should tell you that he doesnt want you to think he hates you...and he doesnt hate you.
so.... this guy seems to have an avoidant personality disorder, fear of abandonment, trust issues, etc... maybe he was abused (mental, physical or sexual) by the people he trusted(parents and friends) and therefore tends to avoid intimacy with people so that he wont be hurt again....so...instead of blowing a fuse keep telling him that you trust him and will never leave him...but stop telling him that you love him...just do this for a couple of weeks eventhough he doesnt reply and if this fails, get over it because you probably are worth a lot more than him.
2006-12-26 19:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by Spiderpig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself- am I learning smth from this situation or reality check is hard to do as my mind goes blank when I think about this guy, and emotions are the only thing I am relying on now?
Is he really that good for me?
Is there a chance that in 5 months I would completely forget him?
Have he ever made me laugh ( smile at least)?
Could it be that his infatuation was shortliving and that made me upset?
Have a nice one.
2006-12-26 10:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, well i would wait a few days and then try to contact him again and tell him how you feel. Did you ever actually meet the guy? if not i mean, really, he could be anyone........
anyways, good luck
2006-12-26 10:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry i didn't read the whole thing but you never date guys online because it's bad news
2006-12-26 13:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by daniele™ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're asking this question in the wrong forum.
2006-12-26 12:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋