I'll take care of my wife and children to the day I die, and still love my wife and want to be with her, in every way shape and possibility. Aside from any religious beliefs. Can a man love 2 women and want to be with both women. Can it be possible for people to work out differences and "wrongs done", and come to a ammicable agreement for all parties involved???
2006-12-26 10:11:40 · 31 answers · asked by corpblkmale 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your pretty funny
that's sorta like having your cake and eating it too
but i guess it never hurts to ask
you all ready have one woman who knew about the other woman
now all you have to do is convince the wife
best of luck bud
2006-12-26 10:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by seven_ms_man 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure you can ---but who is this fair too?? Certainly not the other woman who will never have a family relationship 100% and more so your wife and kids---Why do you think this is OK??? It most certainly is not--ONE MAN ONE WOMAN is fair--besides how can you be positive that the other woman is not also seeing someone on the side?? After all you cant make a commitment to her--so what would happen if you brought home a STD?? How then would you feel?? Would you lie to your wife?? What if it were AIDS?? And your wife were dying?? And your kids--would you tell them some weird story?? Or be honest--can you look them in the face and tell them that their Mom was not enough to keep you happy that you needed to have a mistress on the side?? Further more you say you love your wife and will stay with her till death do you part---I find that so hard to believe- because that kind of sincere love doesn't include an outsider--the thought of having another man in my life gives me the willies--I DO LOVE MY HUSBAND !!! No a you agreements here you need to make a decision--Or better yet tell your wife and kids and let them choose your fate--bet they choose for the cheater to move on--
2006-12-26 18:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about your wife but there's no way in hell l would agree to my husband having a mistress as well as myself !! You say you love your wife and want to be with her. So why the need for another woman ?? You could not possibly love your wife with all your heart if you want to love another also. It is not possible !! If l was your wife l would definately give you an ultimatum it's either me or her. You can't have both. Honestly you must be a real jerk of a husband to even ask such a question !! Do you think that all women came down in the last shower or something. You need to grow up and fast !!
2006-12-26 18:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, I can honestly say that it is possible to love two women at the same time and those that say no only say that cause they never have and therefore cant relate.
But in truth, its highly UN likely that you will end up with both or even the choice to have both in the first place.
You see, its not likely that either one will be o-k with not being "the one". Women by nature are Territorial and are not likely to share someone.
More than likely your choice is going to be to choose one or the other, that is if after all this there is still two to choose from.Its not very often a wife is going to forgive adultery and move on without distrust. especially if you were to say you want to have both her and the other girl.
Look, sometimes life's about choices weather you want to make them or not.Think about how its all going to affect everyone, not just you and go for the one that is the one you don't think you could live without. Just always take care of those kids and be in there lives as a dad.
2006-12-26 18:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the women might be polygamist Mormons, that might be one thing, although that is still a weird arrangement. There might be a facade of peace, hardly something to live with.
Intimacy with 2 women who know about your arrangement is a serious mistake, that you indeed will end up in a mess, and you will hurt your wife badly and not be fair to the other woman.
You obligated yourself to your wife, whether you want to face that or not. But it sounds like you do not care for Bible principles , so that is why I gave you practical info. There is a lot written on the pros & cons so weigh all matters. What you are doing, if you decide to do your thing, is sitting on the fence. Indecision, in relationships and many other things is a serious flaw in anyones character. Sorry about my frankness, but that is it in a nutshell.
2006-12-26 18:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by THA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is that fair to your wife if your not being totally faithful to her and your going behind her back for sex?
NO a wife and mistress can't share a guy, because eventually your going to be found out.
Also if you wife finds out, how do you think she is going to feel? She will be hurt and crushed. You need to think about your wife and her feelings and needs WAY before your own. And quit the affair with your mistress. Because your wife should be your #1 priority, then your kids, your job, your family, friends and then yourself.
And by having this affair, your putting yourself first.
It's guys like you who give REAL men a bad image.
I think you need to tell your wife, appologize, and hope that she will forgive you and if she does, and she doesn't divorce you, go to marriage counceling.
2006-12-26 18:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are in love with your wife, but in lust with your mistress. you need to really sit down and think about how your wife feels about you and this other lady. and your mistress has very little respect for herself and you, cause she is messin around with a married man. you took a serious vow to your wife and said for better or for worse and regardless of how she gets on your nerves and hounds you all the time, you should be with your wife. that's what i don't understand, why would you make a sacred dedication to someone and then loose interest in them and find you someone else to be with? i know that your wife is hurt and wants to know why you would do something like that. i don't think its possible to be in love with two women at all.
2006-12-26 19:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can love two people, but you made a vow to love honor cherish, and forsake all others. You can want to be with 2 women, but keep your stuff together and don't stray, it gets complicated and too many emotions are involved. I was the other woman for 8 years. There is no compromise
2006-12-26 18:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by SINGLEMOM4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for you to love 2 women at the same time. And if your wife feels for you the way you feel for her, she will want to work it out, unless this is not the first time you cheated. Just be open with her and dont ever do it again. Good Luck, if she wants to stick around then you better treat her like the queen she is.
2006-12-26 18:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? Some people choose to have open relationships and marriages, and that's one thing. But you kinda left her out in the cold on this one, buddy. Even open relationships (swinging, sharing) are still based on trust, not cheating and then springing it on you later.
If that's what you wanted, you should have asked her and talked with her about it BEFORE you lent out her man meat, dude.
I'm glad you say you'll take care of her and your kids. Be prepared to have to do just that when she finds out what you did......most women aren't down with the sharing.
2006-12-26 18:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like a very bad idea. Pick one woman and stick with her. It's not fair to the wife or mistress for that matter.
2006-12-26 18:15:05 · answer #11 · answered by Ricky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋