Divorce imminent…due to extra-marital affair.
2006-12-26 10:01:29 · 8 answers · asked by SassyCassie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make sure your child knows that he or she is not part of the reason you're divorcing, assuming the child is old enough to understand.
Try not to argue excessively in front of your child. Try not to call each other names and slam doors.
You can hate the behavior w/out hating the actual person.
2006-12-26 10:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is divorce the only answer ?? Is he still with this other woman ?? My husband also cheated on me but we are working things out and the other woman is long gone. Believe me it is not easy but it certainly can be done. You should never speak badly about your husband in front of your child especially if they are very young. If they are older like mine then they understand what is going on and make up their own minds. My husband has lost his first born daughter due to his cheating ( she is 30yrs old and could not accept his infidelity ) I don't know that she will ever forgive him. I however have forgiven him and believe that he will never do such a selfish, hurtful thing again. I don't think l will ever forget though and that makes things a little difficult at times. The woman he cheated with is a complete different story however. I honestly would be afraid of what l would do to her if l ever saw her again, there is no way in hell l would ever forgive her. All l feel for her is hatred. I had met her and she definately knew he was married. Women like her are predators who go after men in their weak moments with no regard for anyone but themselves. If you really wanted to sort out your problems the last thing you should ever do is throw up the affair in your husbands face. If he is truely sorry for what he has done, he honestly feels guilty enough already and there is really no need. Dredging up the past only makes things worse for both of you if you are trying to move on. I wish you all the best for the future whatever you decide to do.
2006-12-26 10:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can hate the third party slut with whom he cheated and you can hate him for doing it. If you are trying to work through this and save your marriage, I suggest marriage counseling. It might work, but I don't think I could ever trust my husband again after something like that. It is important to remain positive around the child and counseling can help you with that as well. Never bad mouth your husband in front of the child. Always remain neutral on the subject when discussing him with your child. Just because you hate him doesn't mean the child has to hate him too.
2006-12-26 10:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by gigi_victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do alot of praying it's been three years since i found out my hubby cheated, and even though we are no divorced, i would not feel at all comfortable around him or the other woman. can't avoid the hate, get some spiritual counseling, nothing as bad as cheating to bring out the worst in us, as this totally destroyed your world. but u must forgive it, if not u will end up bitter and unable to move on. forgiveness is not about forgiving the guilty parties, or letting them off the hook for the wrong they did to u, it's about setting yourself free from it. it is really hard to see your husband with the woman who destroyed your marriage, so it would not be out of the question to insist she stay away from u, ask him not to bring the home wrecker around u.
2006-12-26 11:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say divorce--then that's where it needs to go--then turn and walk away--first of all never talk bad to your kids about their father --if in fact he is a bad guy they will grow up and see the truth for themselves --mine did--as far as the 3rd party--don't waste your energy --the ill feelings only tear you up --unless you are able to verbally tell this woman how you feel then let it go and move on--make a home for you and the kids and be glad you are rid of the man that didn't treat you as you should have been treated--be the better person --be a rock
God Bless you in all of this its never easy to be strong
2006-12-26 10:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot show your anger and hurt feelings around your children or they will grow up thinking that that behavior is acceptable in a relationship. If the divorce is going to happen, go get it over with. Rip off the band-aid and quit whining about it. This will allow you to begin healing and getting on with your life.
2006-12-26 10:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever bring up the cheating and dont throw it in his face if you plan on staying with him.
2006-12-26 10:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, I still haven't figured it out.
2006-12-26 10:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋