I have tried talking with her..to no avail..I have bought her the colored brooms and mops that she likes..to no avail..why must she be so darn lazy?
2006-12-26 10:00:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Please no angry women reply..I have enough anger with my wife...
2006-12-26 10:04:23 · update #1
It is afterall a womens job to clean the house..
2006-12-26 10:36:36 · update #2
stay out as late as possible. when she asks why you always come home show her the mess the house is and she should get the point.
2006-12-26 11:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by eddie 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your wife may be a perfectionist who feels overwhelmed by how much there is to do and feels that if she can't do it all (which is painfully obvious to her) that there is no point in trying. She may engage in avoidance behavior by ignoring the problem and refusing to listen to you about it. If this is the case, I would recommend that someone she trusts and with whom she does not feel defensive about the house (i.e, NOT YOU) could give her a book called "Sink Reflections" by Marla Cilley. If you arrange this, DO NOT mention it to her or ask if she's reading it or anything like that. Your attitude is not conducive to change in such a person. I know. I also understand your frustration.
In the meantime, you can pitch in, which will make it less overwhelming, BUT you cannot act as though it is not your place (after all, you live there too) or that she is causing you a problem or that you are doing HER work; you can't even say something like 'look, I cleaned the bathroom.' She will be quite aware of it and waiting for you to lay a guilt trip on her. Bad move.
I doubt she is lazy. If she had everything done for her before you married, she may be spoiled. However, seeing you work around the house uncomplainingly (yep, that's right... UNcomplainingly), she should see that she needs to pitch in... especially if you toss around the idea that you two are partners when you talk about other aspects of your life together, not the housework. I'm sure she's smart enough to take the hint.
Good luck. If these ideas don't work, you might consider relationship counseling.
2006-12-26 10:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by j s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's waiting for your dumb butt to get up and help her instead of expecting her to get it all done by herself.
And did you ever stop to think that your wife is JUSTIFIABLY angry? Why are you so intent on HER doing all the housework? Does she never do ANY? Or does she only do part and then expect you to the rest? Never doing ANY would be kind of a problem, yeah, but expecting you to help out isn't unreasonable.
And by the way, does she have a job? Do the both of you work?
2006-12-26 10:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
i would imagine that, if the lazy husband got off his butt and helped her more often, she might
find more joy in cleaning....
especially if it is the husband's messes in the first place.
did a lightbulb just go on in your head?
2006-12-26 10:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chef Bob 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do you do your half? If so, talk to her and explain you pull your weight and do half and you would like her to do her share, as it's not fair.
If you don't bother, why should she do everything for you?
2006-12-26 10:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by Nog 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are always two sides to every story.
2006-12-26 10:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by PSYCHLO 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Hire a maid to do it
2006-12-26 10:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have her learn by your example.
2006-12-26 10:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by castle h 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Leave her. Her joy will energize her.
2006-12-26 10:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Skeff 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
have her to lose weight and to change her diet.
2006-12-26 10:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋