If I have a lazy wife..how do I get her motivated to get up and clean the house?

Question

I have tried talking with her..to no avail..I have bought her the colored brooms and mops that she likes..to no avail..why must she be so darn lazy?

PLEASE no angry women reply to the question...I have enough anger to deal with dealing with my lazy wife.

I thought she might be depressed, so I suggested she go tothe Dr...she cannot even get her lazy *** in gear to do that..I am fed up with her!

I do NOT CLEAN..I feel it is my wifes responsibility..I do other tasks more important around the house..

Youknow I told her I would buy her a french maid outfit.she was TICKED off..I finally just layed it down..I am the BOSS in this house..

Answer 1

Maybe cleaning the house isn't what she want to do. You might have to appeal to her some other way. Help her with it and do it as a family thing.

It could be that she is mad at you for something and this is her way of getting back at you.

Talk to her...NO YELLING!! Just simply talk to her and find out what can be done to have her help with the house cleaning.

Answer 2

Both my wife and I work full time. She has ADD. I do 90% of the cleaning, shopping, cooking and yard. I also do all of the house and car maintenance. I work 7-3:30 she works or suppose to 9-5. She makes clutter all over and is a pack rat. We have been married 40 years and this is just getting worse. She did give me two children which she primarily took care of, while I did the rest. Now that the kids have gone I want her to be more helpful in the other task and it is just not happening. I feel so frustrated that it is a wedge in our lives and may impact a 40 year relationship.

Answer 3

If she doesn't work the least she could do is HELP with the housework.

If she does work you should share the housework.

Are there any children she is taking care of, if there is a baby or two in the house you might as well forget about a clean house. Accept the clutter.

Think about things she might be doing that you don't notice would help ease your nerves a bit, but you really must sit down with her and tell her your expectations for shared responsibility.

Personally, my fiance understands that two major chores really physically hurt me due to a back problem. Laundry and Dishes. (I'm really tall and have to bend to do both. We are talking about getting a "Laundry Table" to replace the low spare bed we currently use to fold/hand clothes.) I do a lot of the other stuff though.

Answer 4

The problem lies in your last comment. She could be depressed because she's in a relationship where the man still believes it's the 1950's and that it's the woman's responsibility to cook, and clean and open her legs so you can have a son. Instead of buying her brooms and things and then bitching at her when she doesn't get up and clean. Why not wash the dishes, or clean the shower, or wash your laundry. I would have no respect for a man who didn't have enough respect for me to not even try to least clean up after himself. I clean for my partner because I know that he would gladly ( or just do it to make me happy) pick up a duster and dust, or vaccum and when he gets lazy and stops helping he always makes sure to thank me for dinner, or thank me for keeping the house so clean even after he tornados through it at least to show me that he appreciates my efforts of keeping our space clean. Try showing her a little more respect and appreciation and I'm almost 100% sure she'd be happy to grab her toothbrush and mop the floor. But i don't see how you can possible call her lazy when you admittedly are making the messes but not cleaning up after yourself, she's not your mom and you are old enough to know better.

Answer 5

this is the way it works in our house if i am the only one working then my fiance cleans if hes working and im not then i clean the house if we are both working then i would do the majority of the cleaning laundry, dishes, mopping,and he would do other stuff but like some of the other people said she could be depressed i know i get like that sometimes try taking her out and doing something fun every once in a while especially if u have kids and she is in the house most of the time by herself

Answer 6

Ever think shes not lazy but depressed and is sick of sitting in a house all day long alone??? If by chance she does work mabey she doesn't think she should have to do it all anyway. Buying her a mop o yippy!!! Get off her back about it and things might start getting done nobody likes to be told they have to do something all the time. If shes anything like me she won't do it just because you told her she had to. Give her something fun to do get her out of the house and just leave it alone.

Answer 7

i could understand area of her difficulty if she is a working spouse. If she is a stay at domicile spouse there is not any excuse for working a grimy spouse and teenagers. in line with threat she thinks all you basically take a seat around and don't something to help so why could she. My granddaughter became a slob additionally as she could drop issues in the path of the floor, depart a huge mess to freshen up and etc. i could %. up her issues and throw them in the rubbish. whilst she asked the place such & such became, i could tell her in the rubbish because she threw it down or left a large number. It broke her habit speedy.

Answer 8

YOu must use positive reinforcements to get her to do tasks!
Use privledges like choclates, when she does a task, verbal positive reinforcements for task, tell her I really apprieciated when you do my laundry for me, so I looked good at work, and everyone knows that my wife loves me so much, that she does my laundry well, and make me look good.
Buying tools helps, but not motivator, take charge in your marriage, be the head of household!
there are times a man needs to take charge of his home, and even in love, get his wife to do things for the house and for him!
Give her a spanking, if she does not do housework, if the positive reinforcements doesn't work.
Buy her a new outfit everymonth, for daily routine chores done until she is out of this rut of depression.
I am a woman, a wife, and have been under depression before, and my husband took charge, told me he wants his wife back, house to be taken care of, and kids taken care of, and all his nagging and critism did make a difference where I do not like to hear all of bitching about the house. So I got busy did something daily to get things done, he his feedback of positve reinforcements helped.
It not about being lazy, it is about a woman under depression, and have not life within her, that she would rather end it all!
Cut all white flour out of her diet, no pasta, pizza, bread, bisquits, and etc, and add more protein and dark chocolate in her diet.
Best of Luck

Answer 9

Maybe she just doesn't want to clean up after you. She probably isn't lazy, she's probably tired of your BS and just doesn't want to do it any more. If you really love her, and I mean REALLY love her, pay for a maid to come over and clean every other week and all your wife has to do is straighten up. If she actually loves you, she'll straighten up the house in between visits. If she doesn't, she's not happy with you any more and is probably seeing the pool boy!

Answer 10

She probably is not lazy. I am not a lazy person and although I am not thrilled to do house chores, when they get done I am the only one doing them. I work and he works, we both work full-time. We have no kids. But when we get off neither of us feels like cooking or cleaning. Talk to her to see what the problem is. In my opinion, it depends on who is working, etc.