iam pregnant with second child and i don't think iam going to keep it b/c i can't handle it ones too much as it is..it's a hard to explain what's going on.but me and the father of my frist child broke up and i got with a new guy but the thing is i was pregnant before i left no knowing at frist but then once i ended it with the new guy he went around telling people i was pregnet with his kid knowing it wasn't.know iam back with my first childs father and we don't talk about it i know he knows i have a big belly and iam usally a size 7..is giving the baby up a good idea..no one else knows.i really don't think i could handle another one.him either.help me iam due anyday and i just want to get it over with and live my life the way it was iam only 21 i can't tell anyone i've allready went this long why say know.
2006-12-26 09:44:59 · 29 answers · asked by scared 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is the weirdest story ever. I think you are a guy.
2006-12-26 09:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by ladysorrow 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If your ex is going around saying that you are having his baby and your partner can see you have a bump, then I'm sure everyone else knows you are pregnant too. You get induced in the UK when you are 10 days overdue, so I'm guessing you will have to go to the hospital soon. You will have to make a decision soon though, we can't really say what you should do . If you really can't cope it would be best to give it up. But I'm also 21 and I have 2 children, it's not the end of the world, it's hard but really rewarding. I always think that having 2 children close together is a good thing, you are still used to caring for a baby. But if you are 41 weeks pregnant then you are not due anyday, your due date has already gone...are you really pregnant or making this up..
2006-12-26 09:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am sure you are very scared and confused, i think any one who had been through as much as all that in such a short space of time would be too.
you need to find a good friend or someone you can tell,don't carry how you are feeling all to yourself.find some-one your mum maybe or an aunt,some-one who knows you. I am sure your a good mum and want the best for your baby, at the minute though you are very unsure of which direction you should be going into,being a new mums a very scary thing for anyone,i have had three, it didn't make the imminent birth any the less frightening. I also think you should talk to the father of the child as hard as it may seem,men are daft and mostly they know it,so talk to him,he probably knows its his baby any-way,but tell him how you are feeling,if it causes a row it causes a row,good relationships are full of rows.it gets things out into the open.you might be very surprised,and you'll probably let out a bit of pent up stress.you might be more able to think more clearly and make a dissision that you wont regret and that you can live with.i don't think you really want to give up your baby as you would have already gone through all this before now.your scared.Its OK you will be fine and so will your baby.
2006-12-26 10:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by tallulaberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I really think you need to see your doctor or go and see a midwife at your local maternity unit or at your doctors surgery if she goes there. At 41 weeks pregnant you should have an appointment to be induced as the placenta that supplies the nutrients to the baby begins to stop working so well. Dont make a decision about the baby until you have seen him/her. There are so many people who can help/support you including social services, midwives, health visitors. You need to talk to someone - forget your fella what you want is important. Dont you have any family or friends that could help you or you could talk to?
Good luck with your decision, but please be seen by a midwife/doctor soon for both you and the babys health.
2006-12-28 10:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by LAURENCE B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADOPTION!! If you do not want the baby give it to someone who will care for it properly.
OMG!! Have you even went to a Dr.???
Your making your BF now sound like a TOTAL JERK!!
HELLO~ Baby comes first.. Ditch the guy and take care of this baby.
Sounds like the guy you were with that told everyone that it was his baby is a bigger man than the guy your with now. You should of stayed with the one that was going to support you decision
I don't feel sorry for you!!! I feel sorry for that innocent baby!!
STOP THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF AND WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK AND GET HELP!!! IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU, IT'S ABOUT THE BABY!!
If this story is made up.... It's sick.
Can't say anything about 41 weeks.. Cause I carried to 42 weeks with 1st child
2006-12-26 09:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some support. It's too hard to go through this alone. Maybe there is a support group available in your area. The father also needs to know. It's his child and he should be apart of the decision. I really feel for you. It's got to be rough.
2006-12-26 10:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by fuglefun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very mixed up and I think you need to talk this over with someone professional.Don't be too quick in giving your baby away maybe get it fostered till you decide for sure,but if you really don't want it the baby it must have a chance of going to someone who will love it and care for it.This baby didn't ask to be here and has a right to be loved.
2006-12-26 09:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by sanny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically in accordance on your physician your pregnant for virtually 10 months because of the fact they wade via the final day of your menstrual cycle. so which you're one month pregnant even nonetheless threat is you probably did no longer conceive on that day. How long is your cycle often? On everyday the main uncomplicated day to ovulate is the 14th day throughout a 28 day cycle.
2016-10-28 10:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go for adption at this late stage but be prepared for welfare workers prying into your family & home life. They may also question your ability to care for your existing child and you could end up not having any of your children with you xxxx
2006-12-26 10:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to concentrate on delivering your baby safely first. Don't compromise your health or the baby's. If adoption is what you feel is right for you, then go for it, but you sound like you need lots of support right now, is there anyone you could go to, any family who you could talk to. Please stay safe, and make sure you get medical attention when you do go into labour.
2006-12-26 09:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are 41 weeks pregnant then you are overdue and if the pregnancy carries on much longer, both your baby and you could die. Go to the hospital.
2006-12-26 22:49:44 · answer #11 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋