Over winter break, I decided that there is a certain guy in my school that, for various reasons, I no longer want to be friends with.
I don't know how to go about doing this after school starts, because this person makes me feel really bad and takes my mind off of my schoolwork, and I'm a straight A student.
I do not LIKE him. At all.
When school starts, should I just ignore him?
How would I do that?
Would it be hard if he sits next to me during class and is at my table during lunch?
I gave this person tons of chances, but I hate him.
How do I stop being friends?
2006-12-26 09:24:42 · 22 answers · asked by [A] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What do I say if he asks me why?
I don't have a flat out reason except that he is a superficial jerk to others (not me).
2006-12-26 09:28:50 · update #1
yeah dont talk to him... if he continues just say "can you PLEASE stop talking/bugging me?" and say it like you mean it, and you said please, if he continues.... you may have to secretly tell the teacher/princable
2006-12-26 09:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if the boot was on the other foot- ie if a so called friend just ignored you for no apparent reason.
You don't have to be rude or put either of you in a situation where it will be difficult if you do come in contact with each other - which presumably as school you will have to.
As soon as you see him take him on one side and explain that during the break you realise he is distracting you from your schoolwork and once you have got your results there will be plenty of time to spend together (by that time he will probably be annoying someone else). You should also tell him that you don't like the way he treats other people and that you are worried others wil judge you the same as him.
Be honest, be firm but above all act with dignity, you don't want it to turn into a slanging match, and you will get your point across a lot better by remaining calm and firm, as no-one likes to feel humiliated
Good luck
2006-12-30 03:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by PMF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I want to say you should talk to him. Let him know why he interferes with your schooling. If he's a real jerk, then maybe you should just ignore him. How would you do that? Well, tell him you're busy. Occupy yourself with other friends. When he talks to you, give short responses then start talking to someone else. He'll get the hint. But expect him to be angry with you. You can't get away from that. People DO NOT like to be rejected. So don't be too mean, just cool off. And put your stuff on the desk next to you so you can "save" it for someone else (maybe you should arrange it with a friend ahead of time so they know). Then you can tell the guy "sorry, I told ________ I'd save him a seat." Good luck...
2006-12-26 09:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I was in the same exact situation a week ago!!! LOL, this guy would not stop stalking me, I lost my patience with him. Ok, the first step is to ignore him. Hopfully he will take the hint. If he is that stupid and asks you, just simply ignore him more. If he persists, tell him flat out you dont want to talk to him again. Now if it comes to the point where he is stalking you and wont leave you alone (constantly trys to talk to you, get your attention, or even talks about you), send him an angry email/note (if its a note, dont give it to him personally). Dont show any mercy to this guy, if you dont want to know him, he should understand. For me, the guy thought he could still bother me, I lost my temper on him. In the email I sent him, I was cussing him out big time. LOL! Whenever he looked at me, I gave him a rude look. Also, when he said he wanted to solve the so called "problem", I told him the only problem is that i was still talking to him. Now if you want to be nicer about it all, tell him what you really think, maybe he will change. They guy I knew didnt, thats when I told him out. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-26 09:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Dark Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard, because i'm going through the same thing with my so called "best friend." I seriously think you should ignore him. If that doesn't work, tell him yourself that you are through being the one always forgiving him and giving him second and third chances. After you're done, make sure that he really understands how you feel. good luck
ps don't let him sit at your lunch table, because if he does, you won't be able to move for the rest of the year, and you'll be stuck with him....don't let that happen!
2006-12-26 09:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by u*no*me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's hard for you to open up and tell him straight out you don't want to hang around with him....then I would say Just ignore this person. If that doesn't work get closer to someone else and ask for help on getting rid of him.
2006-12-26 09:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Isabela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you just told us....that you don't like him because he is a jerk....tell him that if he wants to be friends with you then he needs to change and until then you will not be friends with him. This way if he wants to be friends then he will change if not then he will just leave and then you are ri of him. But if you do say this then keep to your words or he will never take you seriously again.
2006-12-26 09:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not hang out with him. if he does not respect you in anyway. and when school starts you should stay away from him.if you are a straight a student then you should not let anything get in the way of that.and if you want to stop being friends tell him. and get to know someone before you become friends with them.
2006-12-26 09:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by baby boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this first: Is he REALLY that much of a bad friend? Is what he did worth losing your friendship over?
Have you tried straight up telling him what's bothering you?
If you have, tell him again what he's been doing that you don't like, and tell him that you don't want to talk to him anymore.
Or, just a straight up and blunt "I don't want to be friends with you anymore." And ignore him. If he's deathly annoying about this, tell a teacher or something.
2006-12-26 09:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Peace Melon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to see him before class starts and tell him the truth that the relationship is hurting your grades and you see no continuation with him. Men are always around but your furture starts from now, so do the right thing its about you.
2006-12-26 09:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by Buffilous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should ignore him. Ignoring someone is also a form of communication: Which he may even like.
If he talks to you just tell him that you don't want to be friends with him. Tell him that you don't want to hang around with him. -If he does not listen to this tell a teacher.
2006-12-26 09:41:53 · answer #11 · answered by Robert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋