Specifically...first cousin once removed who is more than twice my age? I want to know how I can supress these feelings, for obvious reasons...
2006-12-26 09:23:47 · 14 answers · asked by Annalisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes I do think its natural. Its quite simply a boy attracted to girl thing. But as we grow up and realise the relationship..put it in perspective then its time to let go of those feelings. Don't allow yourself to constantly think about it or you will find yourself making excuses that allow you to persue them in the 'wrong' way. If you find that you dont want to make the right choice or your not strong enough to do the right thing then get out of the situation. Move away..dont see them anymore. Just never give in!
2006-12-26 09:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by vmmc_64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to be attracted to anyone of the opposite sex whom you find attractive and/or sexy. Part of the growing up to be an adult process is learning how to control this. Unfortunately too many people have created many problems in their lives and the lives of others because they have not learned to control their urges. Perhaps what is more of a concern than being a cousin is the fact that the person is twice your age. Enjoy the feeling in private and look for someone your own age with many of the same characteristics.
2006-12-26 09:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can control who you are physically attracted to. It would stand to reason that you could be attracted to a relative, it doesn't mean you are wrong or bad, but obviously you can't act on it.
In regards to suppressing your feelings, well you could spend less time with the person, try and talk yourself out of it with logic by consistently telling yourself there is no future in this - when you feel an attraction, or put your attention elsewhere. there's plenty of other people out there, that aren't related by blood.
good luck
2006-12-26 09:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ambience 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has urges and fantasies. I know i had some weird ones when i was your age. and about you cousin he is probably thinking the same thing i know as a guy the possible sexual aspect of it has entered his head but that doesn't mean much any thing that is female guys have thought about getting with. just dont worry about it unless inappropriate touching occurs and make sure that there is a line that you will know when it is crossed. i am a guy encase you didnt get that
2016-03-13 22:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not atypical of youth/immaturity to be curious about close relatives. It is profoundly unhealthy to act on that curiosity.
Telling yourself "its bad therefore no" isnt an effective strategy. The same immature mind finds "breaking the law" an attractive incentive.
Imagining the shame abuse and contempt your children, and family would have for you, and the high degree of medical problems your children would endure, and their meaningfully shortened lifespans might be better at causing you to not act insane.
Average people live to be 80 years old. You dont want to spend a majority of that time regreting and paying for poor decision in youth.
You can not directly control emotions, but you can indirectly influence them.
Feed your eyes healthy stuff, dont even look at your cousin again. You cant necessarily right away control what your brain does, but you can control what your eyes do, and with them starve the brain. Be sure not to just starve your brain of unhealthy food, but to give it high quality food elsewhere - DONT involve physical, hormonally rich, visual stimulants in your lifestyle. Explore a hobby, get a second job.
Do control what your hands do or do not do in relation to what your brain does... no matter what goes through your head dont act on it. Find something involving quality work, possibly serving others in your community, also involving hard physical labor. Make it something rewarding to your heart, and your mind.
Controlling your eyes and hands, over time, can save you from a lifetime of contempt, shame, and folly. The choices you make, make you. Make you someone that you can admire today, and 80 years from now.
2006-12-26 09:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by Curly 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's natural. If he's hot, he's hot. I had the same situation. Just never put things into action because he is related. People don't admit these things because they are ashamed. Or they never had a hot cousin to know what it feels like.
2006-12-26 11:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wouldnt say it is normal to be attracted to any family member, but it happens. Talk to a counselor about this. DO NOT act upon it. Not because of age, but bloodline.
2006-12-26 09:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure ! Mine is gorgeous. I didn't hide my attraction and we had many good times even kissed. Why ? You can't just be friends. If she is older you think you could "slip it between the cheekies".
What a dreamer, you got a screw loose and an infantile brain.
2006-12-26 09:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea it is totally normal...but dont entertain these feelings, you can say o hes hot, but dont ever think that you could have anything with him for he is not only your cousin but also twice your age. Just try not to look....think of him as your brother or something
2006-12-26 09:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have feeling for anyone but we are given choices in our life. Humans are separate from animals because we can make choices and we are supposed to know right from wrong. Under no circumstances would it be right to act on these feelings.
2006-12-26 09:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋