okay, here's the story:
my "friend" is someone that i have known for about four years, but, even though i've called her my best friend, I really find her annoying and hard to be around. The problem is that she always takes advantage of me and makes me feel bad, then acts like she didn't mean it, or covers it up with a joke. However, I can't not be friends with her because i will lose a lot of my other friends. Please tell me what I can do to make her feel the way I do.
2006-12-26 09:17:38 · 6 answers · asked by u*no*me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just start spending more time with your other friends and don't give much attention to the other friend.
You don't have to be mean, just slowly back off from her.
She will start spending more time with some of the others, and you will be spending more time with the others.
You will slowly drift apart.
Or you could stand up for yourself when she treats you badly and don't stand around waiting for excuses. Just speak your truth and tell her, her behaviour is not on.
Your other friends should realise how she is treating you.
If they 'dump' you for that, they are not really friends.
Do you want to be friends with people who take her side, when she is the one who is in the wrong?
2006-12-26 09:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ambience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loose your "so called" other friends just because you've made a decision not be be treated in this negative manner by this person...... then those "other" friends were truly NEVER your real friends. Otherwise they would either understand or respect your decision regardless of what they personal attachment they have toward her. You're an individual.. not a group. And as an individual you're entitled to your own feelings and choices.
You do however, need to make a choice... obviously life is all about choices. It's unhealthy for you to have disrespectful friends,people who take advantage of you, are mean or who make you feel bad about yourself. If you'd like to give her a chance to change her attitude/behavior, let her know by communicating with her on how you feel.
Take her aside... maybe go out to lunch with her (alone) and start a conversation with her about some positive things you like about her. Then tell her some of the things you are not happy about in your friendship with her. Tell her it hurts you when she says, and does certain things to you (give examples)... Let her know that if it continues you'll need to move on. If she responds by saying "she's only kidding around" let her know that you don't roll like that and you're not feeling that type of joking around.
If she doesn't change... stick to your words and move on.. with a quickness, because you'll always find other people who are worthy of the type of friendship you have to offer. You just need to be strong about it.
Be blessed!
2006-12-26 17:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being her friend. Talk about the way she makes you feel and the way she treats you to your other friends who you think you will lose if you stop being her friend. If they don't understand you need to find other friends who respect and understand you
2006-12-26 17:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by dbskluvYUNJAE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a pep talk with her. But, if she still is taking advantage of you, then just stop being her friend.
2006-12-26 17:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by girlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging around her. Plan some activities without her. If she ever asks why she wasn't included, then spill your guts. By then she'll realize it's serious.
2006-12-26 17:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to sit down and talk with her but try not to be rude and tell her what you dont like about her but if you want to be her friend than be it and dont let other people stop you cause thst is wrong>>>>>
hope i helped.......
2006-12-26 17:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋