I am 29 yrs old and was married for 4 yrs to(Vinny) my ex. husband.I am still in love my ex. husband i feel like i made a huge mistake.We were together 10 yrs dating middleschool through highschool on and off plus two years of college.Then i decided to transfer into a 4 yr college and he decided to go home to help his family run their resturant/wine store so we split up.I graduated college 3 months pregnant and my then bf left me.I needed a place to stay and Vinny let me move in with him.I gave birth to my daughter and he accepted her like his own.Two years later i got pregnant with my son and we married.The marriage was rocky he cheated while drunk and in retaliation so did i with my boss.We divorced and i was married to somone else for 6 months before getting divorced again.
2006-12-26 09:15:31 · 22 answers · asked by Maggie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am currently living with my first husband again.We have a love hate relationship and i am considering getting back together with him again.
2006-12-26 09:17:35 · update #1
Can it work?
2006-12-26 09:18:25 · update #2
I cant seem to fall out of love with him!
2006-12-26 09:22:52 · update #3
I would get counselling before even going into this one!
2006-12-26 09:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your children, you need to settle down.
What is the best decision to create a stable loving atmosphere for your children?
Why are you frequently changing partners? Sometimes being without a partner is a good decision, too. Getting in relationships in "retaliation", is self-defeating. You end up hurting yourself.
Take things slowly. Wait to see if you have changed or your ex has changed. Don't be in such a hurry.
It must be confusing for the children to have a revolving door at your house with boyfriends or partners.
Relax and make a mature decision this time.
2006-12-26 09:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can't go back. It all depends on how much garbage you two accumulated. Too many hurts can't be mended. From your short statement, you did a lot wrong. You haven't been stable through marriage or children. Your son and his son, but only your daughter. Why not marry him and stay married and raise his and your son with a good marriage. You can't help your daughter. You've screwed that up, but you two can be mother and father to the boy. Get your heads on straight and give these kids a chance. Quit thinking about yourself all the time.
2006-12-26 09:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Vinny is your safety net. You know you can count on him when things are rough for you. But is he really what you want? You were already down that road once with him. Why do it again? He was a drunk who cheated on you...bottom line. Of course, you're cheating ways will have to stop....period. You need to decide what you want. You may think you still love Vinny, but does he still love you? There's alot to think of before going back, which is something I don't do. Ex's are ex's for a reason.
2006-12-26 09:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell you not to go back. While Vinny may provide some level of comfort, you have already been there,done that. Find yourself a man to start a new relationship with. Remember all the mistakes you made previously and strive to not make them again.
2006-12-26 09:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you put your children first for a change? Stop making instant decisions and do what is going to be best for them! Another quickie marriage isn't it! Only married 6 months, come on, you can't see that you are just spinning in circles!!! Just STOP, do nothing, give yourself time to think, think about what kind of life you are giving your children. Do you feel you HAVE to have a man in your life or something?
2006-12-26 09:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This story is full of foolish on all sorts of levels.
From here it looks liike there is one guy who can put up with you and you cannot accept it.
So you bounce from guy to guy marrying and mothering as you go.
You are living with him again but are thinking of getting back together?
Give us a break.
2006-12-26 09:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, take it slow. It sounds like you've been through a ton in a short amount of time. Stay true to yourself and focus on being the best person you can and take care of those kids!! :)
2006-12-26 09:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by bobtaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like alot of drama! Maybe you should learn to take care of yourself and your children, than when you have done that than you should think about a relationship. You should be with someone because you love them and want to be with them, not because its the easier thing to do at that time.
2006-12-26 09:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of its important to look at what shop the receipt is from as properly as what became offered. it may provide you clues as to if he became skipping artwork to do some thing he shouldnt have been doing. If its some thing uncomplicated, like groceries, in line with threat the time became incorrect. attempt and think of returned to whilst he offered the object on the receipt. in line with threat its from a furnish shop and he had to %. some thing up for his workplace? If that doesnt help, i could call, or flow to the shop, and ask the cashiers if the time is oftentimes precise and that i could enquire appropriate to the object that became offered on the receipt. as quickly as returned, if its some thing minute, I wouldnt difficulty approximately. yet of course if its some thing that he shouldnt have been procuring then you certainly could somewhat carry it up.
2016-10-28 10:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. But I suggest both of you get counseling before getting married again. Good luck!
2006-12-26 10:34:57 · answer #11 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋