Okay well I have this guy-friend, which used to be my crush, that likes me, alot, and we're both not allowed to have BFs and GFs. He wants to become FRIENDS OF BENIFITS with me [not having sex, just kissing, making out, and french kissing]. But the problem is, I don't like him that much anymore. On a scale from 1-10 on how I still like him, its prob. a 4-5. Does anyone have suggestions on either how to tell him I don't like him anymore, or how to say no to the FRIENDS OF BENIFITS without hurting his feelings???
2006-12-26 08:51:22 · 13 answers · asked by Small Girl = Big Problems 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Express yourself honestly. Tell him how you feel. That is what friends do. They express themselves openly and honestly.
I believe that the phrase is Friends With Benefits, and it is used by adults to imply sexual activities. Friends hug and sometimes kiss, but seldom have sexual activities unless they are more than friends. Sex is whatever turns you on physically. Friends can do what they do in public. If you have to be alone to do it, then it is "With Benefits".
One of the things that you will have to learn is that it is not always possible to avoid hurting someone else's feelings. Express yourself. Make it as plain and simple as possible. Be gentle but be honest.
2006-12-31 09:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 16⤊ 1⤋
This seems like a no-brainer. If you don't like him that much anymore, DON'T DO IT!! If only all of life's problems were this simple. Don't let anyone bully you into doing something you don't want to do. I think the easiest way to say no is to just say no. You don't even have to give him an explanation.
2006-12-26 08:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 is half of 10 and thats a lot considering your saying you dont like him that much anymore, and kissing leads to sex so if you plan on having sex with him then go for it. if not then stay away.
2006-12-26 08:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't reveal your age. If you are both consenting adults, hit the sheets. Sex is not always about love. Sometimes you just need some!
2006-12-26 08:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you only wanna kiss your boyfriend, not just friends. Kissing means more than just kissing, its actually the most passionate of all romantic actions.
2006-12-26 08:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by U Luv It 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him NO WAY. Friends of benefits leads to trouble, it's called USING YOU. Stay away.
2006-12-26 09:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really wants to be your friend (and not just someone to get his rocks off with) then you can simply tell him you are not interested in that kind of relationship with him.friends are ppl who you can trust with your inner most secrets , if you feel you can't do that with him then he is not your friend
2006-12-26 08:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bo honest. Let him you like him, but not like that! You should NEVER feel pressured into something that you dont want. Think about your feelings first. Respect yourself!
2006-12-26 08:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Topaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "I don't think so" If he keeps trying to get you to give in then he is a jackass and he deserves to have his feelings hurt.
2006-12-26 08:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Eric G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just telling with the following word
NO
2006-12-26 08:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋