My husband and I married almost 3 months ago. He's changing day to day. When we got married he became more controlling. Not jealous or following me or anything like that but, definitely more controlling. He told me numerous times before we got married that he was going to stop smoking (pot) and even tried and did. Now that we are married he does it all of the time and I asked him why he tried to stop b4 we got married and now he smokes all the time and doesn't care how it makes me feel, he told me now we are married and I can c the true him. Also, he won't take responsibility for anything he does wrong, it is always my fault. Also, I can come home from work and if he feels like being touched or talked to then I can touch or talk to him but, if not and I try to he gets mean about me leaving him alone. I'm a church girl and he used to hold the cuss words in front of me. Now, he just lets them fly and even calls me whore and tells me to shut the f*c* up quite often. What is it?
2006-12-26 08:46:06 · 8 answers · asked by Dsoftball 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you think this could be a "now you belong to me" change?
2006-12-26 08:47:03 · update #1
DIVORCE HIM NOW. Your are worth more than a bag of ****.
2006-12-26 08:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my step father sounds like more then one shitty husband i knew some gals married to
you dont deserve that dont put up with it leave him get a divorce annulment something do not stay he will get worse
he started that stuff after you guys got married because he thinks he has you now and forever for sure
prove him wrong get rid of him leave him
it is abuse mental abuse he fits the profile of an abuser
the gals i have known married to jerks like that tell similar stories how great they were before had but after they got married how they turned completely around
it doesn't get better it gets worse and worse with time i have seen it happen before
dont keep him dont stay leave him kick him out just get away from him you do not deserve the treatment you are receiving from him
hes not going to change he doesn't want to change
i implore you to get away it is abuse you do not deserve it you deserve better i have seen it before just get away
best of wishes --niffirg
2006-12-26 17:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by niffirg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with a lawyer about getting an ANNULMENT. They are alot cheaper and considerably easier than a divorce. Yes...Sounds like he has the "I've got you now, theres nothing I you can do" bug. The chances of it getting worse are alot better than it getting any better. good Luck.
2006-12-26 17:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the few words you wrote it seems like its just going to get worse. Its up to you to stay or not but if it were me i would be running not asking on the computer!!!
2006-12-26 17:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even read your entire question. No need to .You overlooked his faults or thought you could make a change.I would not doubt that he knows every move you make.... Get out NOW while your still walking..I see nothing but bad signals. Believe me you will never see any improvement......GET OUT GET OUT
2006-12-26 17:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by buzzwaltz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is exactly that. Get out now while you can, its not goiing to get any better unless he's willing to change. And the violence will escalate.
2006-12-26 16:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship! It has the potential to get worse so just LEAVE HIM!
2006-12-26 16:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are u waiting for... get an annullment asap and get ur life back now that u can... cus from what u wrote.... ur in deep danger... LEAVE HIM NOW!!!
2006-12-26 17:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by educated_college_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋