In Need Of Encouragment?

Question

Im 18 years old and have just found out that i am 7 weeks pregnant. This is a shock for me i was two using forms protection but i now things still happen. My boyfriend is a wonderful person he is 24, we have known each other for well over 4 years and have been dating for a year and a half, we talk about getting married one day but that time isnt here just yet. We have really good jobs im a saftey teacher at a trucking company and he is a dental technitian we both make OK money and work long weeks. I wanted to go back to school and become a mid-wife because i love the process of pregnancy and child birth. I am excited about having a baby but also very scared, i dont know if it will kill my dreams of going to college and getting my dream job. I want to keep the baby but i dont know how to tell are parents i need some kind words to make me feel a little more capable any advice or suggestions?

Answer 1

I got married at 16- had child at 18 - and it is amazing what you can get my on and have enough- buying what you need and not all the wants does wonders- I went back to school- college and got my degree- it can be done- it takes work- it all takes work and committment- when college is done - it is done- and life goes on- the insurance for midwifery is outrageous- I know a friend that quit because of that- you can become a nurse and work in labor and delivery- takes about 3 years to be an RN= I am- and went back and got BSN-Best wishes- D

Answer 2

I think that if you two really love each other and you and the dad are willing to work it out to where the baby will be loved and taken care of, then there is no reason at all to be scared of having this baby together. My now husband and I have four kids and I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant for the first time and he was 22 and when you love each other and you have love for your baby, nothing else matters. The parent's might be a little freaked out at first ( God knows ours were) but you know what, they will either get over it or they won't! I am now married to this man and we have 4, yes 4 kids together and I haven't regretted my decision one time! I think that it sounds like you will have some things to do to change your lifestyles a little maybe talk to your bosses about less hours during the pregnancy and of course you can go back to school you just need to let your man know that it is something that you really want and that you will need help with and I am sure he will understand and do whatever he can do to help your dreams come true. Just remember that it isn't the babies fault if you don't go....it didn't ask to be born.......I had just gotten accepted into our nursing program at our local college and quit due to pregnancy and I don't regret my choice but I know some women later take it out on their kids.....just relax and know that you will do what is best for your baby and that it's dad will be around to help too!

Answer 3

I'm not sure what kind of schooling is required to become a mid-wife but there are TONS of online classes and Community colleges often offer a lot of flexible options, so don't be too discouraged about that. It will take a little longer and be a bit more difficult but if you put your mind to it you can do it :)

Your life will be very different once you have a baby but it is the most rewarding job you'll ever have. At the end of the day when you see your baby sleeping peacefully you'll think, wow, I created that beautiful little person. I promise everything will be fine and you will be a wonderful mother and you will still have every opportunity in the world.

Congratulations on your entry into the best chapter in your life...Motherhood :)

Answer 4

If you love each other and can support and want the baby, then nothing can stop you. Your child wont stop your dreams. Actually, having the baby will probably give you more strength and drive to suceed at what you want. You are old enough to make your own decision. If it turns out the baby is not for you, adoption is an alternative. But really, I think if you want it and your boyfriend does also, go for it! Being pregnant is exciting and scary at the same time. As long as you have support and love from the people around you you will do just fine. Tell your parents, together with your boyfriend. They love you, and they will love your baby too! Good luck sweetie!!

Answer 5

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. It's tough when you have dreams that you want to fulfill when you are young. Pregnancy should come as a shock to someone taking preventative measures. I was the same way. I found out when I was four months pregnant. I was still menestrating and taking birth control and what not. Poop happens, that's for sure. Our daughter is 3 1/2 now. My husband and I just got married in June. As long as you two both want this child and feel that you are financially able to take care of your baby, then all of your worries you have are just natural fears of impending motherhood.

As for telling your folks, don't sugarcoat it. You're an adult. You shouldn't be ashamed of being a new mommy. If your boyfriend is supportive, he shouldn't fear becoming a dad. There are things that are going to happen once this kid comes. You are going to have to buy food and pay for daycare. You may feel like an a--hole for putting your kid in daycare, but it will be worth it (trust me). Anyway.... sit down, you and your man, with your folks, and tell them, "we're having a baby!" They will ask you all sorts of questions (because that's what parents do). Be honest: we were taking preventative measures not to become pregnant. I was taking the pill, he wore condoms. It just happened. I'm sure they will understand. If anything, maybe they will support you wanting to further your education and help with childcare.

I'm sure you will be fine. Again, it sounds like your head is straight, as is your boyfriend's. You two will make excellent parents!

Good luck!

Answer 6

I got pregnant when I was 18. I was also on birth control. Things happen. You may have to put things on hold for a little while, but it's worth it. You can always go back to school. I hope things work out between you & your boyfriend. But always remember, you don't need to get married just because you're pregnant. As for telling your parents, I don't know what kind of relationship you have with them. I was so scared to tell my mom. She's very strict. Anyways, I went in to her bedroom & said "Tony and I are thinking about getting married." Then she said, "Why are you pregnant?" I said "Yes" & it was out in the open. She wasn't happy, but she said she would support my decision. So whatever & however you do it. Good Luck to you!! & Congrats on the baby!!

Answer 7

First of all, congratulations! Becoming a mother for the first time is exciting and scary all at the same time. I was in your position about 22 years ago.

I chose not to marry my child's father, but we were able to remain friends. I spent yesterday (Christmas) celebrating with my daughter and her father, and my husband and the rest of my family. We all get along, and we are all extremely proud of the woman she is becoming!

Look to the future and realize that this baby is going to make your life take many turns that you do not expect. But you will be so proud of the child and the job you have done, if you work hard and make a good life for your child.

God bless you.

Answer 8

My friend has the same dilemma, and she made it out ok. She says her baby is the best thing to happen to her, it seems to give you more purpose in life. She turned her entire life around, and is living right, and she still went off to school and everything. The school was willing to house her and her baby, support her as she goes to school. So your dreams of going to college will not be ruined because you have a child, because colleges are now giving support to young mothers.

Anything is possible if you put your mind to it. Nothing should detour you from who you want to be and what you want to become.

I wish you the best of luck, and if your boyfriend takes the news well, and is happy to share such a miracle with you, then his family should follow suit as well. I believe its better to give birht to a baby otu of love than lust, no matter the age. The love you two should transfer to the baby, and I believe you two will remain strong no matter which road you guys take.

Good luck sweetie. You are taking on a big responsibility, and I commend you for owning up to it. Remain strong. Best Wishes.

Answer 9

well it sounds like both of you are doing well, so thats fantastic. You can still go to school it may just take a bit longer than you thought. I know you can do a lot of courses by correspondance in yuor own time so maybe thats something to look into. Babies are fantastic things. It'll change your life but then you couldnt imagine it any other way. Congratulations. Also dont worry too much about telling your parents. When I told mine they were horrified (I am 23 and married) but now they are buying little pressies, asking about it, they even came to my ultrasound with me! Even if the reaction isnt great when they think about it they will realise that its a great thing.

Answer 10

you can still follow your dreams, however it will be alot harder with the responsibility of a child but it can be done. you can still go back to school and become a midwife, in fact you will be an even better midwife with the experience of childbirth under your belt. it is good you and the father of your child are together because he can help with your goals. do not take on to much at one time and do not be to hard on yourself and do not get discouraged. you can be a mother and accomplish your dreams and goals. you just have to be diligent and not give up. oh yeah also do not put things off because the next thing you will know is your child is 15 and you did not pursue your ambitions.