I got other things but this really "threw" me! I also received paper clips in my stocking! If it weren't for my son, taking him aside the day before, asking him what he got "Mom", and dragging him to a Dept. store to get some perfume, I don't think I would have gotten anything you'd "expect" from the "love of your life"! Every Christmas I have to write down a list of what I want, after 20 years of matrimony (and this wasn't on it) I kind of went ballistic for a moment and couldn't contain myself - I thought it was a "gag"gift. That was my reaction after 20 years of Christmases. What would YOURS be? By the way - I also got HIM a (nicer) paper shredder since HE was the one who hinted about one very heavily.
2006-12-26 08:36:36 · 11 answers · asked by choddy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to blame it on their Y chromosome...poor dears they just cant help it...all of my friends have the same problem..he got you a shredder to make sure that he got the shredder...this problem got so bad that my husband would get anxious even with my help..thought he should be able to come up with ideas on his.own...and he usually did great..but the stress just got to him..this year I did my own shopping earlier in the year...a ton of new art supplies and a truck...ok a little off the top regarding the truck..go figure......but they were things I wanted..told him to get a big bow for the truck and that he was off the hook...this really helped...and he did get me a couple of small really nice things....including a boy toy thing that HE really wanted (GPS)...lol
they donot change...
2006-12-26 09:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by OliveRuth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this DAY of IDENTITY thief I wouldn't complain. Don't forget to shred all the credit card offers you get almost daily.
It isn't just that you got a shredder from him now. It has become a "I got you a better shredder than you gave me." With your attitude it wasn't a MERRY Christmas was it?
If you want to play the spiteful game you may give him a fruit cake next year. If we are ALL lucky he will like it and WE won't hear him complain.
2006-12-26 08:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Pepsi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get hiiiim a stapler next Christmas. Not that it would register with him at all but it could help you laugh about the gifts you receive from him. Men think sooo differently than women! He probably thought you needed one and wanted to be the proverbial 'provider' so he got you something he thought you needed-- trying to be 'helpful.' Men who love their spouses want to help them and if they think a certain gift will be helpful then they will get that gift thinking they are doing you this great favor. You could try to find a way to show him how you "need" romantic gifts and how it will benefit HIM if he provides those for you- he will then go out of his way to get you those romantic gifts and becoming the 'Provider' for you-- thus a win-win situation. Incidently- were you out of paperclips? Did you make a joke about paperclips at one time? Does he have a great sense of humor? Kinda weird getting paperclips-- I'd ask him though what his reasons were for giving you those!
2006-12-26 08:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by El Neenyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very simple creatures, you must TELL them what you want, don't HINT.
I would encourage you to read the book "the 5 love languages" and have your husband read it too, it's available on amazon.com (link below) or any other book website. It sounds like your love language might be gifts and it's important that your husband know that.
All in all, don't take the gift the wrong way, your husband was just trying to get you both something he knew you needed. Men do NOT drop hints or give presents that have double meanings, only us crazy girls do that.
2006-12-26 08:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Paper shredder is good to protect the family privacy so there will be no fraud in the future - that's very thoughtful, right?
Accept it in an open arm... and smile... tell him that he's very thoughtful for the family and maybe next year you would like something more personal...
2006-12-26 09:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So apparently you are the kind of person who measures how much she is loved by the gifts her husband gives her. It must be miserable being that shallow. Grow up and look past the presents. Does he treat you good? Does he show you love? Does he provide the physical and emotional needs you have? Does he do his best to protect you from harm? If he is a good husband, what else do you need? Be grateful instead of greedy. Stop whining!
GAWD I hate this crap about Christmas.
2006-12-26 08:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by PDH 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Girl, I have gone one over on you. I literally went shopping with my husband and picked out all of my own gifts and even wrote the check to pay for them.
I did make him wrap them though.
2006-12-26 09:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should choose to not exchange gifts next time. You are very inconsiderate & demanding. If I were your husband, I, too, would not be in the mood to get you anything. Simply, you do not deserve it.
2006-12-26 08:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember it's the thought that counts...you should be happy that he got you something...being the materialistic hog that you are, you just don't see the love that went into picking out that gift
2006-12-26 10:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by ed j 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well maybe he looks for stuff that u need rather then want so when u need something u dont need to go out and buy it.
2006-12-26 08:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by dream21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋