I am giving you a story of my friend. She is carrying my brothers baby. "I am 4 months pregnant with my ex baby. He left me after he told me he loved me. With know explanation he tells me he is breaking up with me to be with his first childs mother. After 12 years they have been broken up. I I don't eat or sleep, All I do is cry, cry, cry. I try to controll it, but its uncontrollable. It would be easier to get over him if 1 i wasn't carrying this baby he wanted, 2 if they didn't stay in the same area were I live. All i want is to lay down and never get back out the bed. I feel sorry for this baby, because, I dont know if I can love him/her. I'm asking ladies for advice to help heal my broken heart, and men for answers on why we dont' get the respect when we are good women?"
2006-12-26 08:33:57 · 13 answers · asked by MsTruthful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you should be thinking about, firstly, is what is best for the child. You should be taking better care of yourself, because that's your kid in there. There are many many instances, every minute of every day someone else experiences such a low--it is not to discredit your experience, rather give you a scope on the world, and human beings.
I recommend that if it is that bad, you seek a support group to talk to with those in your position, or (even if you are not religious) start going to church and be with all of that positive energy. It is important for your child and you to be around good people, surrounded by them in this time of need.
Hope that helps.
2006-12-26 08:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to move on from this terrible thing is to realize that you have to forget about him and move on with your life. Also, realize that the baby you are carrying is part of you - not just him. Your child deserves all the love, attention, and caring in the world - with or without the dad in the picture.
This guy showed his true colors and at least you got to see them before you had 2 or 3 kids with him. Allow him to be in the child's life, demand he help support the child, but do not let him into your life in a romantic aspect. He obviously doesn't know what he wants and odds are that he may try to come back to you after being sick of his other baby's mom. Right now just get your emotions out, talk to someone you trust, stay strong, be in prayer, and most importantly - make sure you know you need to be strong and loving for your baby.
2006-12-26 08:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is the price single women pay who choose to go to bed before the commitment of marriage is made. Too many confuse love with lust. Just because he says he loves you does not mean he LOVES you...that is ...is romanitcally inclined to love and stay with you the rest of your days... No...Most men, are turned on by visual stimulation. That's what they love. When they get to see your body and enjoy all the pleasure in advance of commitment, there is nothing left to go for. There is an old saying, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?" You gave him free milk. Now you have a problem. The problem is that you two have created a beautiful innocent life that is inside of you. It has no fault in this. Don't blame or hate the infant....even if it is only 4 mos along. It takes courage and strength to be the adult in all this. Go your way.... demand child support of him.... and love and raise your child. Others have and you can too. You will love this baby the moment you see him/her. It is part of you. It is also part of your future. One day you will wonder how you ever enjoyed life without this little one. He/she will fill you life with joy. To help you get through the tough days ahead, you need a loving support group... a church family, a circle of friends who love you no matter what... who will be there for you when the baby comes... and will love you and the baby for who you are. Right now you are crying because you are going through a grieving loss. It will pass. I know One who can heal your broken heart. His name is Jesus. He is the one man who will never leave you or forsake you....and He is an expert at healing broken hearts and forgiving sinners too. Give Him a try.
2006-12-26 08:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TIME is the only thing that can heal a broken heart. Think of the people that morn for dead relatives...time heals people.She doesn't need him in her life if he can't make up his mind about what woman to be with. Women raise kids all the time without the fathers being there by their side.He has made his choice ...now she must make hers...live for herself and her child.Move on with her life and don't hold on to what she and that man shared in the past. She has been blessed with a baby...build from that!! Life is too short for her to be cheating herself out of the happiness she deserves! As for you, be there for her as much as you can....that child is innocent when it comes into the world. Just because he is being a jerk doesn't mean you the Aunt has to be.Be the best damn Aunt you can be!!!! Let that child know it has family that truly cares while it's growing up.
2006-12-26 09:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a loong talk with your brother. That is absolutely horrible for him to do that. I would say that God has given her this baby for a reason. She needs something to love and nurture in compensation for the love she never got. I would tell her that she is blessed for having a child and there is no way that she could not love him/her. Stay strong and never lose faith. Everything works out in time. She needs to stop feeling sorry for herself and get back out on the dating scene after she has her baby. The child is the most important here. Take care of him/her and in time she will meet the man of her dreams that will sweep her off her feet and treat her and her child with the love and support that they deserve. Good luck and God bless....
2006-12-26 08:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by Juicy Baby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-01 04:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too found myself alone and pregnant, and forsaken, happened about 30 years ago, as i walked up the steps to the abortion clinic and entered, a kind lady nurse spoke to me and came to the conclusion this wasn't what i really wanted, so i went back home dealt with my mother. he was born and as it turned out he is what saved me from myself, having him made me the responsible person i am now. Tonight i am picking him up at the airport, can't imagine not having him, anyway he needs my help, he needs his mom, he got in with a bad thing, and needs help to overcome it. yes i had the biggest broken heart ever when his dad didn't want us, but i lived through it, and as i said the boy totally changed me and my priorities in life, from selfish self centered to responsible and caring. would be worse if u were alone with no one but u have something better than this man who left u, u have a child to love. u have to rise up, and wait for your child to come, the man don't matter anymore. all that is important is the child, years from now u will look upon this and all u will have is the child, men come and go, as we don't always make sound choices, but your child will be there forever believe me, now get up and live for the child, keep your dignity don't ever allow a man to steal it from u, especially a man like him.
2006-12-26 08:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes u still love this guy and never say that u might night love ur child. b/c ur child is a part of u. forget about that guy he is a big jerk for leaving u. he is the coward and doesnt know what he wants in life since he's running back to his baby's momma. he has issues not u. my best wishes to u and remember this God loves u and blessed u with that baby. cry out to him and watch him look out for u
2006-12-26 08:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by JANE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might be painful but you'll get through it. A few years from now you will look back and realize that even though it was a painful time for you, you ended up better off -- the jerk is gone and you have a beautiful child.
2006-12-26 08:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jenniphur 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, mabey instead of criing, you could show you are strong, and call him and tell him you love him, and that this baby will be the memory of what we once were, so dont think of that baby as a weight that you cant live, think of it a puppy that you begged your parents to buy for you, that you have to love and nurture
2006-12-26 08:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by PuppyLuv 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋