This guy (37 yrs old) has been not much more than a bootie call to me (35 yrs old) for about 1 month. When I tried to give some substance to the "relationship" in hopes that maybe things could become not too serious but a little less superficial and primitive between us, he becomes thoughtless, and in my view disrespectful, not keeping dates, etc. SO, I dump him, told him that since he couldn't at least keep his word to me to "have a nice life",. He texted/replied the next day with nothing more than - "OK." So, I'm like Fine!!! Forget him! And from then on, I didn't once look back for his sorry a**!
The day after Christmas, guess who texts me with a "Merry Christmas" - yes, Mr. Sorry Jackass! I just deleted it as fast as I could. Before, he would never fight to keep me, he was ready to dump me in a minute when sex wasn't "fun" for him anymore!! He was too busy being a jerk to get to know me.
So my question is - what is it he wants and why the heck is he contacting me now?
2006-12-26 08:28:05 · 33 answers · asked by Cutie girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Has it ever accured to everyone that maybe I was the one who was keeping him just for sex. I got the sex from him because it was what I wanted when I wanted it. Please stop acting like I was beguiled and tricked and seduced into sleeping with him before I was good and ready
2006-12-26 09:50:56 · update #1
He wants you after he forgets how nasty you are.
2006-12-26 08:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As I looked at your situation and your question and your additional details, I am beginning to get a little confused. O.K. you said that you are mad as hell and that your jackass boyfriend text you to say Merry Christmas after 3 weeks. Are you mad because he text you? Your additional comments say that maybe you only wanted sex from him so in my opinion, it seems as if you used him. If you didn't want a relationship with him, then why are you mad as hell? Another thing you call him your Jackass boyfriend. Well, how is he a boyfriend or what do you define as a boyfriend because clearly boyfriends does not behave towards a woman they love this way you described. I am not being sarcastic with you but I guess your situation sounds like you are contradicting yourself, it just doesn't add up.
As I read your 1st paragraph, you indicated that your ex-boyfriend ( I guess that's what he is now) was thoughtless, disrespectful and he was ready to dump you at a minute, and couldn't keep dates. From what you described, this man probably has someone else that he respects a lot more than he did or does you (not disrespecting you just being honest).
You did the right thing by breaking up with him.
Move on my dear and don't worry about why he is sending you a Merry Christmas text. You are at the age now, where you should be settling down and looking forward to a more serious relationship.
2006-12-26 10:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made yourself too available and engaged in premarital sex. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. There's no mystery to you. You handed over so quickly and easily the precious gift of your mind and body so quickly and so cheaply.
He is viewing you as a booty call, piece of butt, or a strip of of tinsel... used for a short season, then discarded. Your intelligent and what he's doing is not to difficult to figure out since you put it out there so freely and easily (no disrespect intended)
Value yourself more and you'll be valued. Guys should be the one chasing you and be worthy of being with you and view you as potential marriage material. Honor your body, and respect yourself much more by knowing that what you have to offer is rare, precious and a beautiful gift.... worthy of a husband. Don't give it up again until you married.
Men in general don't have a need to respect or permanently want anyone who is easy to have. Most are mainly interested in running game, and getting involved in non comitted sexual realationships.... You need to recognize! Trust!
2006-12-26 09:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by 247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prioritize your sexual needs. If, by your own words, he was nothing more than a booty call well just keep it at that. Once a relationship starts off on the booty call, rarely will much more come out of it. When you base your 'casual' relationships on friendship with certain 'benefits' you have more of a chance at nurturing the relationship to gradually higher levels of intimacy, emotions, respect, understanding and so on.
He is after nothing more than to be your booty call for ever. Don't be offended by his insistence, be flattered but do be assertive in getting him off your back before this takes the route of a 'fatal attraction'.
2006-12-26 08:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Several possibilities maybe the reason for him contacting you after xmas. One is the possibility of a heartbreak that he have gone through or something that he may have wanted from someone else for xmas that didnt went through or went as expected. Another possibilty is that he has spent his holiday time with the girl, his "real" girlfriend, and now just wants to go back to sneaking and playing with you. All in all he is not the one for you because think of it this way what did and what was he doing all the other times that matter more than spending time with you on one of the, if not the, most important holdiay of the year. Do not play in his hands. Instead play him back by ignoring him and getting on with your life with someone who will give you that love, time, honesty and respect like we, women and men, deserve.
2006-12-26 08:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by starsmoonis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. Your title says "Jackass b/f" which I thought b/f means boyfriend. Why are you calling him your boyfriend? Not trying to be disrespectful so please don't take this the wrong way. You are old enough to know that this guy does not want to be in a relationship with you. You dumped him and his reply was o.k. Girlfriend, wake up. Please get it through you head that he's only uses you for sex. Is that all you want in a relationship? O.K. now on to your question.
He is only contacting you just to say Merry Christmas, that's all and the sad part about it is he didn't even bother to pick up the phone to tell you Merry Christmas instead he sent a text. In my opinion, he did not want to be bothered or didn't want to hear your voice.
2006-12-26 09:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by Who me? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really didn't want anything to do with this guy, you wouldn't be asking the question. Its plain as day, what he wants--another booty call. You partly have to blame yourself for allowing it to be on that level before. My honest opinion, he sounds like a DOG and jerk. Move on, a** comes a dime a dozen!!!
2006-12-26 09:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
expensive, i'm afraid I see yet another question you would be able to could ask greater. Why do you care? you're already mad at him, you have informed your self you have written him off (although your contemporary reaction shows otherwise), you do no longer choose for something mroe to do with him (a minimum of conciously)... so, consistent with danger, in case you detect out why you could no longer in basic terms look at that message, snigger, delete it, then pass directly to the subsequent subject rely to hand, you will be sure what that's you surely need to invite. sounds like it somewhat is something mroe like: "He did this and that i did this and then he did this... could I respond? And if so, with what?" or "could i discover out what he needs? Or could I in basic terms forget approximately it... this frustrates me extremely lots so I nevertheless have some thoughts for him. What do I do now?" What do you think of?
2016-10-19 00:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have just been saying Merry Christmas. Or he might want to see if you cooled off and are ready to be his bootie call again... you never really know with men
2006-12-26 08:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep on forgetting him. He may have texted you because he wants to get physical with you. Someone who is callous that makes you feel bad about yourself doesn't really deserve a second chance.
2006-12-26 08:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by Contessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UMMMMMMM.....maybe you need to text him back and ask.....but he probably isn't getting any now, so the sex you were having seems like it might be fun again? Just a guess.
If you want the real answer ask "Mr Sorry Jacka s s".
2006-12-26 08:33:16 · answer #11 · answered by PDH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋