This is quite common with me. Often times I will take either a comment, or some kind of action personally and I will often think that anyone (even the nicer of people) are trying to hurt me. I don't know what I can do that will help me to not take things so personally. I've tried to tell myself that nothing is wrong, but I keep thinking back to those moments. What can I do to help myself to see things in a better light?
2006-12-26 08:11:46 · 8 answers · asked by ravensfan172003 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
STOP GETTING OFFENDED EASILY.DON'T WORRY I USE TO BE LIKE THAT.IT TAKES TIME BUT YOU'L GET OVER IT.
2006-12-26 08:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by MAIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah! Yes, you are taking things personally. There is a great book by Don Miguel Ruiz called "The Four Agreements" and one of the agreements is: DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY. When people say things to you i.e. "That's an ugly shirt you're wearing" or "You look tired today" or "I don't appreciate your attitude" - those things are about THEM. They are not about YOU. If you want to take it personally - and walk around feeling hurt and miserable - that's your choice. But - really is it a wise choice? Wouldn't it just be better to shrug and say "Hunh - that's interesting that they see it that way" - and move on - and be happy? You can't control what others say and do anyway. All you can control is your own mind. So do it!
Namaste!!
2006-12-26 08:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be like that too.Then i realized that people have different ways of saying things and that not everyone is trying to hurt me.Maybe you need to relax and realize that you are a good person(if you are)and that not everyone is out to get you,and the ones that are should be forgotten.Life will start to take on a new meaning when you see it in a different light.
2006-12-26 08:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sassyface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You appears to be too light skinned. In this society, you will get a lot of ribbing for there are many idiots out there. read good books, pray for those kind of folks for they know not what they do. When your mind goes back to those episodes, think more positive.
2006-12-26 08:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to take it personally. I used to get upset when people said things, whether they meant to hurt me or not. Go to a counselor to help find out why you take it so personally.
2006-12-26 08:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so sensitive .if someone doesn't like you then too bad for them ! they will never know that you are amazing .just get a thicker skin !
2006-12-26 08:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man up ***!! Dont take anything to the heart. What r u a ***** or something?
2006-12-26 08:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Arrogant Bastard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
now u just soft....
just tell them "dont touch u"
now it's not that hard
2006-12-26 08:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋