2006-12-26 08:07:45 · 24 answers · asked by jpnsc2 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Not if you want your marriage to last it isn't. Stick to monogamy. It's worked for my Partner and I for the last 26 years.
2006-12-26 08:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it can be. Is it always? No. Is monogamy always good for a marriage? Obviously not. Look at the rising divorce rates.
Speaking from the point of someone who is in an open relationship: I may not say that it's strengthened our bond. But it sure as hell hasn't hurt anything, either.
What may well strengthen a bond, though, is haveing to defend yourself from the world at large. Your family, friends, employers, and the random people on the street will all condemn you for being evil and unclean and just plain wrong.
It's all about trust and communication.
But then again, it's not for people who ony have sex in missionary with the lights out, either. If you're prudish, closed-minded, or otherwise un-informed, I wouldn't suggest it.
I know a lot of people, though, who are in open relationships, who are married, and who are staying married - happily. One couple I know has been married for 27 years. Another, for 15.
2006-12-26 20:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by sexy_sorceress_169 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 00:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by kigar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prudish I am not, but "open sex relationships" as you put it are just wrong. An open relationship is cheating with permission, but it's STILL cheating.
I don't believe any of that rubbish about how open relationships strengthen the bond they have with their partner. Uh huh...sure it does. If you're doing the mattress tango with someone who isn't the person you're in a relationship with you're sending a strong message that you prefer to be with the person you're boffing instead of the person you claim to love.
If couples have a private arrangement, so be it. But, anyone who brags to me about what a great relationship they have and how sleeping with other people has enhanced the bond they have, then I am forced to to shout "buhlshit" right to their faces.
2006-12-26 08:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No!!!
It won't feel like marriage but cheating if that happens.
I don't care if both people are happy, a open relationship can damage a marriage in many ways.
yes, I want people to be happy but this means your going to let in STDs, Aids or the worse that could happen is falling in love with someone else!!!
I believe marriage is for 2 people and only for them... they are married cause they love each other and don't want to be with anyone else in a sexual way. (friends are ok of course but only if they are just friends!)
I have heard of a lot of marriages that got destoryed cause they had a open relationship. Half of those were soooo sure nothing would happen to thier marriage.
Its just never a good idea especially if theres children.
I just think Marriage is cause you love that person and want to be with them and only them. There's just no point in marriage if you still want to sleep with other people. To me, that would be cheating. I sure wouldn't want to marry someone if my partner wanted to sleep around. In fact, I wouldn't even date someone who wanted a open relationship!!
It can cause not only a broken marriage but also hurt feelings and jealously.... those 2 I'll rather stay away from and be happy.
2006-12-26 10:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by tashasw79 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on the people in the marriage. If both of you have the so-called "monogamy gene", it's not likely to happen. But if both of you are happy with the other person sleeping with someone else, then I guess it can work for you. The problems arise when the sex is unprotected, then you REALLY have to consider whether you value your partner. If you do... don't sleep around because you can be putting their health in jeopardy and that doesn't imply that you love them and want to be married to them.
2006-12-26 08:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Meira 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's complicated and requires lots of communication. Pitfalls are jealousy, envy. You have to be secure in your relationship and know what boundaries not to cross. NSA sex is probably a series of one night stands (otherwise it tends to get tangled) Some horny dudes just can't resist a sexual encounter and for the pure joy of sex, there's no harm in that, as long as you are practicing safer sex. I've been in an open "marriage" for 25 years.
2006-12-26 09:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like it takes the point out of marriage to me, though I guess it depends on the people involved. I don't think I could ever do it, or be with someone who did. If I did it I'd feel like I was cheating with or without there permission. If they did it then they did it without my permission because I don't like sharing.
2006-12-27 01:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of huge message boards on yahoo for the discussion _ONLY of the open marrige lifestyle. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/openmarriage3/ There are many on there that say they are happily married and have been for many years. They feel what society dicates as the "only" way is not the right way for them. That said its not for me personally but who am i to judge what other couples agree to?
2006-12-26 08:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by ladyshadowwalker60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be good for the individuals. A nice relationship (not the marraige relationship) can boost your confidence, and mood, and that might help with the marriage relationship, but you two will grow apart. It will no longer be a marriage, but more of a friends with benefits.
2006-12-26 09:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's a stupid idea. It could cause alot of problems. There could be jealousy issues or a person could fall in love with someone who is not their spouse. People who want to sleep with more than one person probably shouldn't get married.
2006-12-26 15:36:39 · answer #11 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋