Yesterday, I had a Christmas dinner party for some friends, I cooked and we all had a nice time. I have recently booked a 2 week holiday to Thailand, one of my friends called up her daughter and during the conversation mentioned I was going to Thailand. The daughter immediatley reacted with offensive comments like 'so he is going there to sleep with whores' etc etc. Now Ive never been with a whore in my life and was quite offended at overhearing this comment. IM not sure what my next step should be, I've considered emailing the daughter explaining my disgust at her offensive comments or should I just let is pass (maybe she is funny in the head or just drunk).
2006-12-26 07:49:47 · 23 answers · asked by not_really_a_football_fan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Her comment makes her seem ignorant and uninformed and a complete idiot for saying that about you when she doesn't know you and not to your face. She is just trying to impress someone or herself. Blow her off she is irrevelant to you clearly. Don't let her spoil your great trip. I loved it there and never saw a whore or anything like that. It's a beautiful place, enjoy!
2006-12-26 07:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by spitfin 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I take it that you were in a legitimate position to overhear - that is, your friend won't think that you were spying on her calls. Nonetheless I think that you should have a serious talk with your friend in which you make it very clear that you found this comment offensive, that her daughter had no business making personal remarks about you - there is such a thing as respect for the older generation, isn't there? - and after you've made your position crystal clear I would ask your friend for *her* suggestion(s) about what to do next. I'd be inclined to hold my tongue during this part of the conversation so as to make it clear to your friend that this is a problem that she has to solve.
(You need to think about what you would like the daughter to do, but in your place I would definitely be looking for an apology from her and that apology would have to be quite formal, so as to recognise the seriousness of her allegation; by formal I mean that she writes you a letter, or she asks to see you and apologises in person - not asking your friend to pass on her apologies or anything like that).
But don't you e-mail the girl herself. You run the risk of getting your friend all defensive on behalf of her daughter and then it all gets very messy. Handle it with your friend directly.
2006-12-26 08:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you don't want to come across as agressive, and you don't want to stoop to her level by attacking her about it. so, what i think you should do is, when you are in a conversation with your friend and the daughter, or just your friend and the daughter is present, casually drop joking remarks about it. for example: "i'm sorry, but i can't do dinner that evening, ill be in thailand f*****g whores."
something like that...i hope you make her look really bad, the rude cow!
2006-12-27 00:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a pathetic little girl to me.....leave it as it is ignore her she's probably jealous of the fact that you are going to Thailand and she isn't....or may be because she won't be one of the whores in Thailand that you where (going to see)!
2006-12-26 08:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by cOMpLiCaTeD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree it may't be authentic, if it replaced into the plug could have been pulled the 2nd she began to undress, a television show (supposedly a relatives show if it replaced into featuring a teenager as a contestant) does no longer have allowed it to proceed in the event that they ever wanted to air their show lower back. If via any danger that's authentic it might have been fairly embarrassing for the lady, she could in no way have the skill to look any of her college friends interior the face lower back. i've got faith for her!
2016-10-19 00:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by kigar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the comment was rude, but she wasn't talking to you. and, depending on how young the daughter is, she doesn't exactly understand her own comment and may not realize that the comment was offensive. talk to the friend about it personally when the daughter isn't around. hopefully the friend will have a talk with her daughter about the comment to help her understand it and to help her understand that it was offensive.
2006-12-26 14:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget it! Some people are just twisted. You know what you are and how you behave and no-one has the right to judge you. Those are her standards not yours! Have a great time and Happy New Year.xx
2006-12-26 07:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by maria bartoninfrance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My own son told me that where I am going in Thailand is only for dirty old men going to pick up Thai prostitutes!!! I just howled with laughter!!! Just laugh it off they are only jealous cos they aren't going!!
2006-12-27 03:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by barmyberni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong with her. She shouldn't react as such. Are you in a relationship with her? Even if you are she has no right to offend you like that. It is up to you to decide how you will react.
2006-12-26 07:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by fallenangel4504 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, its not your place to correct her.Unless you were involved in the conversation.The mother should have corrected her. Sounds like shes a little jealous or just very narrow minded.
2006-12-26 07:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋