In the last couple of years I've found myself attracted to the bdsm lifestyle and have a desire to be a submissive man. I've noticed, I'm not truly happy unless I'm doing something to make a woman happy. Why is this? What does it say about me?
2006-12-26 07:46:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Why is this, because that is the way you are wired.
What does it say about you? That you know what you want!
Nothing wrong with being submissive, good luck finding the right woman.
2006-12-26 07:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by ajtheactress 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
The only answer to your "Why is this" question is simply put - you do. The second answer can be you get off on that type of thing.
Yet, beware, while you are a man who gets off on that type of thing. Let us say that you are the type of man who lets a woman boss him around literally then you are a wuss. On the other hand you keep that strictly to sex; your not a wuss.
You don't want to be like this one guy I knew once. He was 5'10" his little sister was 4'11" and all she had to do was look at him crossed-eyed and he'd literally shake in his boots. To prove my point, this one time 4'11" and her husband were staying with 5'10" and his wife. 5'10"'s wife got tired of their crap after a week and boots them out. 4'11" comes back into the room and tells 5'10" he'd better pack his bags or else - he literally left his mouth-gaping wife on the couch and packed his bags as fast as he could and he beat his sister and her husband down to the car!
2006-12-26 09:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so much information to pass along but so many little minds to criticize.
Some people feel more comfortable being taken care of and other prefer take care of them.
Men have almost always been the care givers and to do anything less made them freaks. Women on the other hand have aways been the soft, weak helpless things that needed big hairy men to protect them.
As the ages pass society is a little more (but not much) forgiving and is starting to let us be who we are.
I myself am more of the soft weak (even though I am far from being weak as I dance often and am "very" fit) woman than the overbearing dominatrix and am this way with both men and women. I am more comfortable. Perhaps you are too. or maybe you just like to please women and the "stronger" ones are the only ones you have found that will understand this
2006-12-26 08:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Be your self. Whoever you're is what's going to be sexually eye-catching to a lady. not all women human beings, yet that female who's made only for you. in case you try to be delicate basically because you imagine that's what women human beings choose it received't artwork because it isn't geniune. which will rapidly fade and vice versa for the take charge variety. ask your self who you're and replicate on your personality and tempermant. that's cliche, yet do somewhat "soul searching". even if you locate and if you're pleased with it then that female will like it.
2016-12-01 04:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your making some woman happy, that is what we all try to do, and i see your point and raise u a dime, after the big blast of being macho man gets pecked away the isn't much left, and they are relentless or they have the court systems finish the job
2006-12-26 15:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different personalities. There is absolutely nothing wrong in being submissive. In fact, some psychologists think that the two dimensions: dominance vs. submissiveness and friendliness vs. hostility can tell us what we need to know about one's personality.
In general, submissive people are more comfortable with dominant people and vice versa.
Forget about gender stereotypes that make people sometimes behave in an artificial way. Act naturally and be with who you feel comfortable with. Again, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, it is just your natural personality type.
2006-12-26 09:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Freud was mostly correct, when it came to western culture, his theories fell apart when they were applied cross culturally. Assuming you are a Westerner, I would say it's an Oedipus complex.
What does it say about you? Well, you're a male with a female, and as long as everybody is happy, knock yourself out. I'd avoid candle wax though.
2006-12-26 07:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I see some unkind responses here.Live and let live,folks.
What it says about you?You want a woman to take control,just your preference;and as far as wanting to make a woman happy--THAT is wonderful!!
2006-12-26 07:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
It's because you are a great man!
Maybe talk to a therepist, if you really want to understand.
2006-12-26 15:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with this, DON'T WORRY about it. Who cares why. It makes you HAPPY. Millions of people have regular everyday lives with secrets in their personal lives. To each his own.
2006-12-26 08:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋