2006-12-26 07:45:32 · 28 answers · asked by vernique_ford2005 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Have the baby. Get a DNA test, and then a court order for him to pay child support. Other than that, leave him alone.
2006-12-26 07:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As an experienced teen mother, now 19 on my third due in 2 weeks... I would say have the baby. I mean at times it will be hard but Ill tell you I went through a lot when I was pregnant with my first (15) I had no money, homeless, no education, Nothing! Find someone who will support your decision. But by the time I had my second... I finished High school, got my own place, a good job, a license, a car and I didn't get any help but from the shelter I was at (which wasn't much) But I made it. I guess it was just motivation for me, I wanted the best for my kids. But It's really what you want to do I just hope my short story helped. Don't let anyone tell you you cant do it and your going to amount to nothing because that's not true. Good luck!!! I hope you make the decision that's best for you. :)
2006-12-26 07:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by gurlygurl831 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having worked in a Crisis Pregnancy Center, I can tell you that most daddies who reject their wife or girlfriend when they find out about the pregnancy absolutely love the baby when it's born.
If it's a situation where you're not married, and the baby's father is rejecting you because you are pregnant, then you need to be willing to let him go, and know that God has blessed you with a precious child. Find people who will support you and spend time with them - surround yourself with them. Contact your local Crisis Pregnancy Center. You can probably find them in the yellow pages under "Abortion Alternatives". They will support you through your pregnancy and after baby arrives.
I personally worked with a mom who was rejected by the baby's father, and after the baby was born, the father decided to come back into their lives.
Will your parents support you? Do you have friends that will support you? For now, focus your attention on those people and on your baby, and don't let the baby's father's actions influence what you know is best for yourself and your baby.
2006-12-26 07:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if he don't want anything to do with you!! Motherhood and Fatherhood are the greatest things you can experience. He wants out, LET HIM!! His loss, not yours. 9 months from now you'll have a beautiful baby boy or girl!!
There are many single mother's out there that found away to provide for their baby. I used to be one of them. Now I'm married to US Army Soldier and he treats my oldest as if she was his own. You will find someone that will do the same.
Enjoy your pregnancy and be a great mother. The baby didn't ask for you or it's father. You asked for the baby not taking proper precautions.. Give the baby a life. Your mother chose you. You should do the same for your baby.
I have no doubt that you can be a good mother if you give it your all. Just remember one thing. Don't take it out on the baby that he has left picture. Look at it as the baby was better off without a A**HOLE like that in it's life. Good luck and Congrats!!
2006-12-26 08:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Scorpios_Dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from experience, this is the best time of your life. the father didn't want anything to do with my baby but after a few month he is more exsited then me. In your case, things happen for a reason and there are a lot of women who want to be a mom and can't. your are very lucky and just try to be the best you can. when you give birth and look at your baby for the first time is the best feeling in the world and you are going to say it's all worth it.
2006-12-26 08:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by sashachula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby confirm he is the father and get a court order for child support. Just because he does not want anything to do with you does not mean he should not have to take care of his child.
Part of the risk when you have sex...and he can answer to that child when it asks 'where were you my whole life'...
2006-12-26 07:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by ~Just A Girl~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you put the father's name on the birth certificate when you give birth at the hospital. This will help you collect child support payments from him once the baby is born. There is nothing you can do to make him be interested in a child, particularly one he didn't want -- with a woman he's not married to.
However, he is legally require to make child support payments for his child until the child is 18.
Also, if you are young, single, and unsure of how to handle this, please consider the alternative of adoption. There are plenty of stable, loving homes where there are two parents who would love your child and give it a good home.
2006-12-26 08:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by EmLa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends- How far along are you? Do you really want this baby? If the pregnancy is in the first stages and you're only a few weeks down the road- if you don't feel like you can deal with this baby on your own- i would suggest abortion. If you want to have this baby- start looking into MC+ (insurance), WICA (sp?) (state ran for baby supplies), Food Stamps (thru state) - depending upon what kind of job you have and what you make you can qualify for these programs. You can do it alone if you know you truely want this baby- but don't think he'll change his mind. It has to be for your baby and for you- if you want to carry this out. It can be done! And i wish you the best~ tc
2006-12-26 07:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by answers4questions 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well as we all know, just because women are having a man's baby doesn't make him want to be a good father or become the girls husband. If he doesn't come around then you need to take him to court and get child support. Hopefully he will come around and be in the baby's life...but don't expect him to ever come around and be in your's in any romantic way.
2006-12-26 07:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say your age. I think that makes a difference. If it were me, I would give the baby up for adoption. Unless you were TTC, don't keep a baby you don't want. There are so many women out there who will pay for the best care, etc. for you because they can't have a child and would love yours. It would be a wonderful gift for someone, and you don't have to worry about raising the child alone.
And don't bet on child support -- you could sue, win, and never see a dime. Unless you are capable of paying for this child and taking care of him/her on your own, talk to an adoption service.
2006-12-26 07:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, take care of yourself! That baby depends one you and only you! After the baby get the Attorney General's office involved so you can get child support and make sure that you have extra money to take care of the expenses that you are going to have. Finally, move on and find someone that will love you and the family have you created. Promise, it will happen...experience talking!
2006-12-26 08:22:09 · answer #11 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋