What is the typical biological/psychological process, in steps, a healthy woman has to determine her best mate

Question

Assuming science rules, motivations are usually centered upon reproductive success strategies. These change as the situation changes - few women would care as much now if her male was physically aggressive to threats as they would have before, say, fire. So the prototypical American situation - or western society - how does it go? Is visual first, or knowledge of money, et cetera? Are women more likely statistically to prefer generous men, or more predictable, and usually successful, selfish men? Now that survival is not so hard, do women want men not much more intelligent than them, so they will not be overwhlemed, (ego thing,) or do they still go for the most intelligent man? Is it less about childbirth now? What are the strongest lasting influences on her determination of her optimal mate?

Please, no broad strokes. Give as much detail as you can. If you've got reliable, SCIENTIFIC sites, please list them. Thank you very much; happy holidays (maybe, if you celebrate).
Take care!

Answer 1

I think it will be challenging to find a scientific consensus on how a woman chooses a mate. You will get very different answers depending on which literature you turn to.

I parallel this question to that of Nature vs. Nurture. What you are really asking is which features is a woman biologically tuned to, and which are learned as a function of society and experience.

Unfortunately, I am not an expert in any of these areas, but I can point you to a book that gave me a lot of insight into the biological processes that guide physical love and attraction:

Fisher, Helen. Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love

Fisher is an anthropology professor with a background in Biology. Her interdisciplinary approach will serve you well, I believe. This book discusses the reproductive success strategies and its modern incarnations, which you pose in your question.

Great and well-posed question!

Answer 2

You are asking about a woman's intuition, right? About what her hormones tell her is the best mate?
The biological/psychological process will tell her different things depending on what time of the month it is. There is a short period when she wants to abandon herself to a man and other times when she wants an equal partner.
Young girls imprint on behavior for a mate.
If her father is more assertive and strong she will imprint on males for a mate.
If her mother is more assertive and strong she might become lesbian.
If her father doesn't discipline her then she may go through life looking for someone to "tame" her.
Americans are particularly neurotic about sex. Unconsciously assimilated TV commercials know how to warp minds. Know why a diamond engagement ring is important? The idea was implanted by the diamond industry. No other reason.
Sex is psychedelic making fantasy, images, and symbols seem real. Making the symbol of bonding and intimacy seem real. People get addicted to it.

Answer 3

All that you are talking about...very few women sit down and do. Women-just like men-want simple things in life with someone who wants to share them with her. A real woman wants to build a life with a man, not mooch off of what he already has or him off of hers. The building is what creates lasting, lifelong memories.

Everything you are describing here are relationships that will never last because they are not rooted in something other than material and financial gain, compounded with physical traits. That is why the divorce rate is so high now. People are waiting for someone to bring them up instead of trying to be their own person and allowing God to do His job.

Answer 4

oftentimes the female is fascinated in what she is conscious - ie somebody that reminds her of a few thing in her previous (sturdy or undesirable). IE - I constantly date darkish hair and massive construct historic previous - father is darkish hair yet very skinny. desire: desire somebody like my dad yet w/ greater meat on him next Maslow's Hierarchy of desires: Deficiency desires – that are ordinarily actual (consume, breathe, social, intercourse, ect) IE - i could have the skill to be attentive to that he can sustain himself and that i can't could furnish for him. historic previous – Don’t desire a leach and that i don’t desire to unfastened my identity because of the fact i'm now his “female” desire: Wouldn’t thoughts being dealt with each and every each and every so often. Wouldn’t thoughts to be sure my pals too! growth desires – self actualization IE – Does this relationship have any skill historic previous – in case your non everlasting don’t depart your crap at my domicile desire: defined relationship!