I need one.
2006-12-26 07:38:00 · 16 answers · asked by kurticus1024 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to grow up and be mature about this. Marriage counseling is called for here. You and your wife should not be ashamed to talk to a professional. Usually when your spouse is not fulfilling your needs, there is a need that you are not fulfilling for her. A professional will help you communicate those needs and solutions to each other. A word of caution, both you and your wife have to work on this together, she can't fix your relationship without your help and understanding and you can't fix it without her help and understanding.
2006-12-26 07:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by ratluke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why go through all of the trouble of a divorce if sex is the only issue? This happens in every marriage, and would happen with the next person as well. Fix it! If you don't have a sex life, it isn't just her fault. It takes two, dear.
There are medical conditions that can make a woman lose her sex drive, but for the most part that is not the case. One person or the other is not fulfilling their spouses OTHER needs, like the need to feel worthy, loved and important, or the need for affection and attention, or the need to be romanticized-that kills the sex.
So if you "need one", work for it. It's not like if you get a divorce that women all over the world will be falling with their legs open. You'd have to work for that, too. Take the energy you would have to expend to get a new girl interested, and put it to use on the one you have.
2006-12-26 15:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, There is only one way to divorce your spouse. I don`t understand what you mean. If you and your spouse have no sex life and there are no reasons (medical or other) then I would say for you to get a divorce and get on with your life, but there is no best way to do it. Just one way. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-26 15:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your spouse you are not happy with your sex life. But what happened to let's work on it. If it takes a dozen times before anything improves so be it. That is your wife/husband and your loyalty should lie with them first. You should not be worried about how to get the next piece of ***. When you are dating that's one thing but when you tie the not you are supposed to be together for life.
2006-12-26 15:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice would be to go for counseling, maybe there is not enough communication between you two regarding this. try your best to work it out first.
for the best way to divorce, talk to a lawyer. btw, you do not really need to put down a reason why you are getting a divorce in the papers, you can just check the box that says "irreconcilable differences"
2006-12-26 16:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by donewithschool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really suggest that you try to work through this with your wife. I know exactly what you are going through. I have lost my sex drive and I am only 24 years old. I have 2 kids. The youngest is 2 years old, ever since I had him my desire for sex has went down. My husband probably feels the same way you do, I have tried to convince him that it is not him and that there really is something wrong with me. The only problem is that they don't make a viagra for women, why I don't know. I just wish my husband would sit down and talk to me and tell me that it will be okay that we will get through this together, whatever it takes. I really would love for him to say that to me and know that he means it. Right now I do feel unworthy, unloved, and not much of a woman. So please just talk to your wife about this problem, as calmly as possible and just be there for her. Trust me, if you do that and stand by her and help her through it, you probably won't regret it.
2006-12-26 16:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tara P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way would be to file for a divorce! After the divorce is final, start dating and try to find someone who is capable with you and the type of sex life your looking for. Good luck!
2006-12-26 15:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Has something changed? Baby...new job...money problems? All of these can cause stress ...which can cause a lack of sex. Talk.....if you can't come up with a solution then be honest and do what's best .
2006-12-26 15:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you wanted to cheat on her, now you want a divorce. I feel really bad for your wife!
2006-12-26 15:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by baby1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try spicing things up in the bedroom before trying to divorce her. Maybe she thinks your boring too in the bedroom!
2006-12-26 15:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋