I'll just get straight to the point. A few months ago, in april, i was taking a walk through the cemetary by my house and a man came up behind me. He held me at gunpoint and raped me. I thought it was over after that...but i was wrong. I hadn't seen him in a few months, but the other night i saw him again. I was on a walk, in pure daylight, and he was there, smoking outside of a gas station. He saw me and started following me, so i kicked him where it hurts most and ran back home. I'm only 13...and i'm scared out of my mind right now. I don't know who he is, and i don't even have a good description of what he looks like. I was too scared to really pay attention to his appearances. What do i do?
2006-12-26 07:08:05 · 23 answers · asked by xsayxgoodbyextonightx 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Injuries
First I am so sorry that this happened to you and please know that I understand. It happened to me at 18 and I didn’t report it because I felt ashamed that I may have done something to facilitate it (he was my boyfriend) But there is a big chance that you are taking on your mental health if you don’t tell someone now. For many years I suffered from Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. Although you may have it now it can only get worse if you don’t get help right away. If I am right you are having anxiety attacks and nightmares. I urge you now to get help and file a report especially since you have seen him more than once. You don’t want him to get anyone else. You are lucky you got away, someone else may not be so lucky next time……
Below if what PTSD is:
Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, is a psychiatric disorder that can occur following the experience or witnessing of life-threatening events such as military combat, natural disasters, terrorist incidents, serious accidents, or violent personal assaults like rape. Most survivors of trauma return to normal given a little time. However, some people will have stress reactions that do not go away on their own, or may even get worse over time. These individuals may develop PTSD. People who suffer from PTSD often relive the experience through nightmares and flashbacks, have difficulty sleeping, and feel detached or estranged, and these symptoms can be severe enough and last long enough to significantly impair the person's daily life.
PTSD is marked by clear biological changes as well as psychological symptoms. PTSD is complicated by the fact that it frequently occurs in conjunction with related disorders such as depression, substance abuse, problems of memory and cognition, and other problems of physical and mental health. The disorder is also associated with impairment of the person's ability to function in social or family life, including occupational instability, marital problems and divorces, family discord, and difficulties in parenting.
2006-12-26 07:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by errin24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone right away. Your parents or priest or someone. They will help you make the right decisions. If you contact the police since you saw him standing at a gas station smoking, it could mean that someone there knows him. The police will know how to find this person. If he has done this to you then chances are you are not the only one and the longer he is on the streets the more girls he is going to get to.
Get some help and report him right away. Good Luck.
2006-12-26 15:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others - talk to your parents and then go to the police. If the guy was standing outside a gas station smoking, he might work there, and the police may be able to nab him.
The other thing to do for a while is to stop walking by yourself.
2006-12-26 16:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by formerly_bob 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwh muffin, I'm in tears reading that. I know how scared you are. I've been in a similar situation. I know you're so afraid to tell anyone, but you must. It will help you, just tell a friend, write a letter, or type it in an e-mail to your family member. It difficult to speak the words, I know it is. I regret it every day not telling my family. 11 years later I still haven't told them yet. I bet you're not the only victim, if you do report it then perhaps that will give another 13 year old girl like yourself some strength and courage to speak up.
2006-12-26 15:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first step would be for you to report this to someone you know like an adult or even then police. Then after you do that you need to start taking some cautions because you dont know what might happen down the line . Like not going anywhere alone and ect. and most importantly be careful.
2006-12-26 15:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by ghain39 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-26 17:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell anyone when it happend? If not, now is the time to tell an adult that you trust. You may have to decide if you want to tell the police. But no matter what, do not try to handle this alone. Tell someone who can help and support you right now. Don't be ashamed. Let someone help you so that you can feel safe.
2006-12-26 15:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you havent told your parents you should immediatly. explain what happened to you even though it may be hard. then you should report this to the police. they are gonna want you to give a description of they guy who did this. it may be hard to remember but anything you can recall about him will be helpful in catching him. you may also want to see a counsellor to help you get over the trauma associated with it. its sad that people are this sick that they would do such a thing but if you dont help to catch him he might keep on doing this to other girls. i wish you the best and am sorry that such a thing would happen to you.
2006-12-26 15:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by chrfou18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report this to the authorities right now!!!!!!! This guy needs to be brought to justice! Trust me, if he's found guilty of doing this to a minor, you'll not see the likes of him again for many years to come.
Secondly, you need to get professional help! You've gone through a serious trauma, and it can emotionally scar you for the rest of your life if you don't get the counseling you need. My wife was raped her freshman year in college, and she regrets not having reported her assailant, as well as waiting as long as she did to get help.
You did nothing wrong!! This was not your fault! You should not feel like you need to live in guilt and fear! My prayers will be with you.
2006-12-26 15:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by rhino 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and if you like, get a really BIG friend to find him and kick him again where it hurts.
2006-12-26 15:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by smiley0_1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋