like his wife he doesnt wanna have sex with me when i want only when he wants which is 1 a month not even and he doesnt like to talk to me in public? i cant take it what do i do should i divorce him even though it would ruin many relationships????
2006-12-26 07:02:08 · 11 answers · asked by yumna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give it lots more thought. Talk to him first, and get his opinion on the problem. It would be wise to talk to a counselor if at all possible.
2006-12-26 07:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by Roy 7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going throught the same thing right now. Every time my husband talks to me he's nasty - short tempered...etc. He tells me to shut the F up...etc. I'm so fed up with it. We've only been married for a little over a month and I'm fed up with it. It seems like after we got married this all happened. Otherwise I would have never married him. He's so friendly with other people and stangers and everyone thinks he's the greatest guy in the world. And here I look like a jerk not feeling the same way. People just don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
But anyways...what I did was typed him a letter telling him how empty I felt inside and that when he talks to me the way he does, it rips me apart. I finally got a response from him and we've talked about it. Things have gotten better and we have an agreement...everytime he had that tone...I just say...hun...watch the tone. Then he has that tone check and thinks before he speaks. Try that...write him a letter so he can't interrupt you. Get it all out. My husband didn't even realize that he was doing it. It's sad but people always seem to hurt the ones closest to them. Only after 1 months I'm about to call it quits...and I don't want to. I'm willing to work on it. And if it doesn't work...then I'll have to think again. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2006-12-26 15:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Michele K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Not talk to you in public? Only have sex like once a month?
Doesn't a woman need passion in her life? If I were you I would divorce him. I mean there are thousands of "fish in the sea".
It may ruin many relationships but you should put yourself first in this situation, are you happy? If not try counselling, if that doesn't work, divorce him. Do what you think would make you happy.
Well, that's my opinion.
2006-12-26 15:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by girly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a situation that I wound up being in. I loved my husband because he was my husband and because of that, because I married him, I would have worked it out- we had very little in common and he spent more time playing games on the computer, on his phone with a female co-worker, and I was out busting my butt trying to make ends meet while he could care less if the bills were paid, so yes, I understand where you are coming from. We as women don't deserve this treatment. If you try to talk to him about this stuff and it doesnt help and he doesnt talk to you about it, then it doesnt sound good. I believe that people should try their hardest to make their marriage work. I tried and tried until one day he walked out on ME! I was sad, but it was a blessing in diguise because it gave me opportunities I never thought I would have. I am now with a much better man that appreciates every little thing I do (although he has his issues). There are wonderful men out there that will be the man you want in your life... so I can't make a decision for you, but it sounds like you shouldnt stay in an unhappy marriage if you have tried and tried and just can't try anymore.
-EA
2006-12-26 15:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not happy. Have you tried counseling? If you don't want to don't. Don't stay married to not ruin other relationships, that's silly. YOU are the one that matters, no one else has been in your shoes and knows how you feel. So do what you feel you should. good luck.
2006-12-26 15:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by not2bright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why would you want to waste your life with a disrespectful, cold-hearted man? Ask yourself this question: "will I regret it if I don't leave now?" If the answer if "yes", then please do yourself a favor and kick this pea-brained man to the curb. A marriage is a giving relationship and it doesn't sound he's giving anything, only taking. Leave him. Godloveya.
2006-12-26 15:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband wouldnt talk to me in public... I would leave him. If you do stay with him it will ruin your relationship. Sex only when he wants sounds very selfish and cold.
2006-12-26 15:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Talk to him about all this.
2. Try counselor
3. Divorce his nasty self.
2006-12-26 15:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like being treated that way then don't divorce..... Some people just like to be treated like trash; it gives them sort of a thrill....
2006-12-26 15:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you answered your own question.
2006-12-26 15:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋