She has not left her husband and kids for him, he is tearing me and our children apart.
2006-12-26 06:55:51 · 16 answers · asked by broken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's call love and habit. You still love him and the habit of doing it wins out.
However think of it this way...he has moved on....don't let him keep dipping back at you when he can't get to her. There are too many risks in doing that. Too many risks to your physical health and to your emotional health.
At some point, you will need to make a decision for yourself and for your children.
Love yourself enough to do the right thing for yourself. Don't let him make you miserable.
Good luck to you and your children!
2006-12-26 07:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken, I used the exact same word 4 years ago. I felt the same way- broken unable to be mended or fixed. It is difficult to move on and you want so hard to erase the past and wish it never happened and you were not the one that caused the problem anyways... so how did things get "broke"
They just are. You need to find a good "repair man" that is all, someone that will fix your "broken" situation once and for all, but the scars will always remain to remind you that the repairs were made from an old product that was preowned. But even preowned items are the most beautiful gifts to a new owner.
2006-12-26 07:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by l00p_2_l00p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE..... so damn confusing I do say!
19 year's is a serious commitment to one another. Nevertheless it seems as though temptation has stepped in his way. (another woman) However if you two are still itimate with eatch other it could mean few things.
1. There is still some kind of emotional bonding there. Which could help...
2. He could feel trapped in a love triangle.
the list could go on and on..... However you need to feel at peace with yourself. He is still your husband, and if he is living in your home, and helping you with bills, etc. Then he is still your's honey! BUT....and there is always a BUT.. if he isn't in your home, and isn't helping out...then it sounds to me he has made his mind up what he want's. Seek marriage counceling.
2006-12-26 07:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lo Lo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. I know how you feel. You keep sleeping with him is because your used to him. And one day like I did your going to have to draw the line in the sand and when your able to do that your going to be sure of YOUR self of what your going to do and want your not going to take. It takes time to get there, it took me almost 2 yrs of my husband cheating with the same women, my husband went back in forth. One month or 2 with me and are kids and leave for a month and come back home for a month and so on. This went on for almost 2yrs. In finally I draw ed the line in the sand. I said and stood on two feet and told him no. I now have a new boyfriend, a new life. And my husband (soon to be ex) called me 4days before x-mass (this yr) and bagging me back and to get rid of my new boyfriend. He must of called me 8 times at work. Crying telling me how sorry he was, and he reliezes what he had lost and he not happy. The old me would of took him back,but something has crossed over in side of me and I can't. In one day your going to be there. The stage that your in is frighten. You can't make your husband stay if he don't want to. If he does leave in he finds out the grass on the other side is not greener he will call you.You need to help your self you need to listen to 640am 12noon-3pm Mon-Fri Southern CA time the Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger talk radio show it's about relationship and family's and read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives.And let God be your strength now.And it sounds like this women is married too. She will have no good luck either.You need to tell her husband. Don't be afraid. The women my husband cheating on me with, she was my husband best friend girlfriend. And I told him (my husband best friend) he didn't believe me. I was the out cast of them all. In tell the hole truth came out. And my husband best friend came to me and told me you were right all a long, and now were good friends.Healing takes God and time.
2006-12-26 08:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop sleeping with him cause you are hanging on to the hope that the two of you will go back to the way it was. WAKE UP!!! It's not going to happen, couples tend to hang on even though they shouldn't for the children's sake. If you truly want to be happy in life you need to move on. Don't you feel you deserve it, if not you should. Women should be treated like queens not like dirt on a welcome mat.
2006-12-26 07:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hoping that he will see that what you and he have together is worth holding on to. The only person your fooling is yourself. What he needs is for you to become a strong individual and not put up with this behavior. Don't chase him he has his "Kate and Edith" too this guy has it all. Why should you and your children have to deal with his indiscretions? You will feel better about yourself if you take control of this situation.
2006-12-26 07:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by kelleyann_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop sleeping with him because you're in love with him, I'm the same way with my boyfriend. I love him despite the many fights and arguments. It's tough to deal with, I usually get mix feelings of worthlessness and feeling like a stupid fool for letting it happen. People always tell me to just do what's right for you, and what makes you happy and healthy.
2006-12-26 07:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey honey if you want to keep answering that booty call just out of habit go ahead it is only sex. If you have no self esteem left and will take sloppy seconds and look yourself on the mirror go ahead. Hope the kick in the butt helped.
2006-12-26 07:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have lost a lot of self-respect due to his infidelity. You believe that having sex with him will help him find the love for you that he used to have. It's not going to happen. You are only causing more damage to your self - esteem, and he will continue to disrespect you. You need to take control of your own life and your own emotions. STOP allowing him to use you! Make a break from him. Show your children that you are strong, and that infidelity is wrong. You are allowing him to control your life entirely. IF he stays you let him, if he cheats, you let him, if he leaves you, you let him. DON'T let him stay, DON'T make it ok that he cheats, and DON'T let him be the one to decide when he leaves!!! Throw him out, and make it clear that you will not be treated like his mistress, because essentially that is what you have become.
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-26 07:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to ask him what is he going to do he cannot have bothof us. If he said he will leave her to make it work with you fine. If he says he wants to be with her then biblically you can go on with your life and remarry someone that respects you. You can't stop having sex with him because he is your husband and you are very much in love with him and I believe you are will to forgive him and go on
2006-12-26 07:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋