He says it is him, that his sex drive is low. When we first got together, we had sex all the time. I have men coming on to me all the time, so I don't think it is me. I talk to my husband about this alot. I am very hurt. I need passion in my life. He only passionately kisses me when we make love and you know how often that is. Help me!!!!
2006-12-26 06:52:52 · 21 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Does your husband have any medical conditions? He should see his physician. My 54 year old husband's sex drive is dependent on how well he is taking care of himself. For example when his diabetes is out of control, I might as well forget it.
2006-12-26 06:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it seems that he is the problem like he says.decide how you really feel about the issue and talk to him,be totally honest and together you can come up with a solution.sex is not the only part of a relationship so you have to check on the other parts of yours.there are alternatives to intercourse with spouse.find out how willing he is to help you out.you can buy some electronic aides and he can help you use them, he may even want to put down the toy and finish the job personally. Or maybe he won't mind you getting a "friend" you know, to help you along with only the purely physical needs. either way he needs to make a choice. Best of luck and ENJOY.
2006-12-26 07:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by dfalllenangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. My married sex life isn't that great either. But, we have to remember that we're both responsible for making an effort. I sometimes lack in that area and expect him to come to me all the time. Remember, guys like to be desired just as much as women. Maybe, that's what he's feeling. Or, he's at an age where he could use a MD check up. Maybe, he's having "probs" sexually. Also, unfortunately once we marry the "passion" seems to take a back seat. I wish it weren't that way. And, maybe others out there can tell you different. BTW, I'm 34 and my spouse is 32.
2006-12-26 06:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why age DOES matter.Anyone that say's age doesn't matter is fooling themselves.As we get older our need for sex drops somewhat.Its foolish to think that any couple with this much age difference can have a satisfying sex life.The reasons for saying that are the woman will be wanting more sex,more often and he will want sex less often and won't be able to keep up with her needs unless he is very healthy.Viagra helps keep things going but it don't make him want it more.
2006-12-26 07:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 58 and enjoy having sex with my wife 3 or 4 times a week. I know we are the exception to the rule... but she keeps me excited by wearing sexy things. I surprise her with gifts, and we always try to make time for each other. Good sex is like any other part of a releationship, you have to work at it. Are you willing to try anything? What is off limits? Let me know.
2006-12-26 06:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has ED and is embarassed to admit it to you. He is 15 yr.s older than you i'm sure you realize, so maybe he feels he can't keep up with you and doesn't want to let you down. Maybe he needs to see a doctor about it. We are all hot and heavy when the relationship begins and then we all get comfortable with each other and forget to keep things exciting and new. Try a few different things to get him moving along with this.
2006-12-26 06:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long after you got married did his sex drive drop off? He may be bored or....having an affair. I'm a little older than him and I'm dying to have a younger woman in MY life!
2006-12-26 06:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ralph the Sage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is the same way....and he's 19! Well, people just have different sexual drives. This is what causes a lot of issues in relationships. It's tough to find a partner with the same sexual drive as yours.
2006-12-26 06:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and talk to him, tell him that you are hurt and that you need passion in your life. Have him see his doctor, they have a lot of meds for the problem he has.
2006-12-26 06:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by girly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a FB on the side. Or a Battery Operated Boyfriend.
2006-12-26 06:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋