who was at one time a girlfriend she is no longer that and i if sex is what makes her one then it has been years at least 4. she steals from me anything food forks money medications . she
has ocd does not work . is the most lazy person i have ever met if i cook a fantastic meal for her and i and ask her to help wash or wash the dishes i have to check later to see if any are clean as most are far from it and i am not picky at all .
i loan her money every month she buys candy no food i mean no food at all and goes to the savation army every month for her food.
she has no desire to do anything other then watch tv . she will not leave her apartment priour to 2 pm or 3 pm depending on what shows are on .
she is of no help to me . i pay her to walk my dog when i am at work and i really think she does not even walk the dog once around the block. she is a cat lady and refers to it as her baby
she has been in mental health hospitail for months at a time
what should i do .
2006-12-26 06:49:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sometimes we can't help people who are not willing to help themselves, and if we keep trying they will just drag us down to their level. if she steals u really don't want her in your house. your intent is honorable in your wish to help her, but sometimes we can't make ourselves responsible for others, they have to own their own problems.
2006-12-26 09:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to figure it out.i think your friend has a problem and needs attention.Take time to talk to her nicely and i am sure she will have the confidence and courage to tell you whats in her mind or in her heart.i maybe wrong but i can sense that she is so depressed and need someone to encourage her.Please try to understand her situation she needs your help,i mean moral support.there are some people who try to distract us in order to get our attention.That's it...be a good istener.I hope your problem to this woman will be sorted out soon.Take care and God bless!
2006-12-26 07:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by MACRENE PADASDAO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theirs probably something that would make her happy and you gotta find out what that is. do you really listen to her?
its good that your helping her but maybe you gotta let her help herself. if she always relies on you she isnt mentally healthy but she's stable. but if you're not gone but not helping she's gonna realize its her life and she needs to start taking care of it. if she visited a physcologist it'd probably be good for her. at least you'd know whats wrong.
2006-12-30 05:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by britt s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing? Stop doing this to yourself, tell her to go on. You've tried to help, if she starts helping herself, tell her you might be there again. If you want to be. good luck you are nice to have tried.
2006-12-26 06:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by not2bright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You done all you can do, now it's time for the pros!
2006-12-26 06:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by rwhz199 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋