One of my friends told me i was too stupid to go to college!?

Question

I wasnt bright in highschool and i want to go to community college to be closer to home but my friend told me i was too stupid to do anything in life such as become a doctor or a lawyer etc.Now its been 2 years and im holding off college because i think im going to fail. I feel bad what should i do??

Answer 1

Who gives a crap about what someone else blurts out. It may sound dorky, but I am a firm believer that if you put your mind to it, you can achieve it! No doubt it will be hard work, and at times the stress may feel overwhelming, but there are always willing individuals in classes that could help break down the material or may even be in the same boat. Basically, don't feel bad (easier said, than done right?). If you feel like school is something you want, than by all means, go after it. Hope that helps a little bit, I am in college right now and it's hard, but it's where I want to be! Good luck!

Answer 2

It depends. How close are you to her parents? If they are like second-parents to you or very close family friends, then I would say that it's your duty to tell them, much like it would be if you saw your sister making the same mistakes. Also, how close are you to your friend? I'm assuming that you've already confronted her about the issue (If not, you definitely should), and that she has blown off your attempts to help her. How many semesters has she failed? There is a certain point where telling her parents will not only save them money, but it might actually help her in terms of not getting kicked out of school. Go to the Registrar's website of your college and check on the details of failing grades and academic probation. Also, where are you getting the information that she is failing? From her? From other people? If you have a reliable source and you know for a fact that she is doing the things that you say, you should definitely consider telling her parents. Most likely in their hearts they know that she's not quite the "good girl" she was in high school, but at the same time, they may resist your efforts to help. Some families have a strong gate-keeping tendency and they may resist an outsider's input. Try to resist talking about her private life (the boys and booze) and instead focus on the academic performance. All in all, if I were you, I'd consider telling the parents, but before you do so, make sure that it is the right call. Evaluate why you are thinking about telling them and make sure that there is no other reason. Make sure it is for your friend and her family's own good and not to get back at your friend. I hope this helps! You're in a difficult position, but it's nice that your friend has you as her buddy. Good luck! :)

Answer 3

Wow, what a terrible friend. That is such a toxic relationship.

You have put your life on hold for two years because of what someone else said. It's time to take control and do what you need to do. Go to that community college and register for classes. Go to class. Study. If you want to be a doctor or lawyer, do it. Do whatever it is that your heart is telling you to do.

As for being afraid of failing, we all fail at some point in time. It's okay. It's part of life. Just don't let it stop you. Pick yourself up and continue on.

Best luck to you. Oh, you might want to back away from that friendship. I've found it's best to surround oneself with supportive people.

Take care.

Answer 4

First of all, a true friend would never say something like that and would encourage you to reach for the stars.

Second, don't blame your procrastination on someone else's opinion. It's your decision to make, either way.

Third, go to college! I wasn't the best in high school myself but I did six years in college and maintained a 3.974 GPA to the end. High school is not a true test of a persons abilities. There are too many factors based on bias, either from the curriculum, the way it's taught or by the teacher who may not like you for some reason and grades dishonestly - and it happens far more often than the education system wants to admit! Our education experts would have us believe teachers would never do anything based on their feelings or bias. Teachers are every bit as human as anyone else and just as likely to behave unprofessionally and give students bad grades and a hard time because they don't like them or their family or are jealous. So, forget high school and move on up in the world! College is a whole new experience and much better than high school!

Answer 5

They must have given you an approximate IQ when you were in school. You must have some idea of your intelligence relative to others. If you really want to go to college, take a study course for the SAT or ACT and then take the test. Your score will be another indicator. You don't necessarily have to be especially bright to get into college, especially a community college, where you can still get a decent education. A lot of people can make up for a lack of natural talents through hard work. Maybe you are one of those people. Failing college, you can still go to a training school. In any case, if George W. Bush could go to college and pull a C average, so can anyone.

Answer 6

Honey go enroll in college it should be some enrollment around the first or second week of Jan. You should never let anybody tell you that you can't people told me that I couldn't go to college because I don't have the patience I now have 8 months left and I have my associate degree in CADD. And its a field that requires math and I suck at math but I get what I'm doing. Don't put your future on hold because of someone elses ignorance!

Answer 7

First of all, i hope this "friend" is not in the picture anymore. Even if you weren't bright in high school, you should still follow your dreams. Would you rather try and fail, or not try and wonder "what if? " for the rest of your life? It's never too late to start college. I may be confused, but this is one of the things I feel strongly about. Go for it!!

Answer 8

Why do you think the only 2 results of going to college is to become a doctor or a lawyer? Go to school, take the entrance tests and see what they say, because it is not up to that so-called friend of yours.

Answer 9

Be pessimistic.enroll college and get a bachelor's degree course.Education is very important.i think your friend was only joking to you.whatever your friend said take that as a challenge in order for you to move on and finish college.have that self-confidence in life.If other's can why can't you.people are not born genius but if you study hard i assure you that you will gradute and that's the best gift you can offer to your parents/family.They will be very proud of you.
If you want to have a good job in the future i encourage you to enroll now.It's not too late to go to college.I hope i will meet you someday to shake hands with you.Take care and God bless!

Answer 10

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "Nobody can intimidate you without your permission." People will say things to hurt and psychologically crush others, even friends and family members, because it gives them some smug sense of superiority. If you want to go to college, then do it. Only then will you know for sure! Better you find out then always wonder in your life what might have been. Best wishes.