i am sad i have a friend whom is married and his wife found out about me and now is flipping off tha deep end now what do i do? he is a internet friend and age 45 and i know his name is not tha name he told me and his wife is a total snot and is not even happy that she has him and i dont know what to do. how do i tell him that i know about his marrage even tough he is married ( ha never told me) i just wish that he could see how happy he iis when i am talking to him he is souch a sweety and i dont want to loose him hes always been there for me and i know i still need him with me and he i know still needs me so what do i do??
2006-12-26 06:45:33 · 3 answers · asked by ksfarose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If I may be blunt ...
Grow up. Don't believe everything you're told. Don't break up a marriage.
Find another friend, if you need one.
2007-01-01 22:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Minmi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but maybe I misunderstood some of what you said...
It sounds like you said that the name he gave you, isn't his real name..? If that's true, then I'm sure there is a LOT more about this "friend" of yours, that you don't know.
All you know about him is what he types to you when you're chatting online. I think you need to realize that it is very easy for people to lie, and take advantage of other peoples kindness on here.
If his wife is all upset about your "friendship" then I can't help but wonder if there's more going on. Do you have feelings for this guy? If so, then I strongly suggest that you take a step back, and really look at the situation...
If his wife just "found out" about you, then obviously he hasn't been up front with her about who he chats with. That in itself says that he definately can be untruthful. Think about it.. if he is lying to his wife, then he's definately going to be more likely to lie to you, as you are just someone he chats with online.. not someone he has a life with.
You say he didn't even tell you that he was married..?
I'm sorry, but this whole situation is just waving red flags...
You know, if you were in her place, and you just found out that your husband has been lying to you, and chatting with some girl online (from your statements, you sound VERY young, by the way) I doubt you would be all friendly and polite about it either. So, for you to refer to her as being "a total snot" really speaks volumes of how you see the situation. He is married to her, and he has a life with her.. I'm sure she's going to be upset about anything that has the potential to break up that bond.
He doesn't "need" you.. what he "needs" to do, is stop chatting with girls on the internet, and spend some time with his wife.
I don't in any way think that there is something wrong with two people being friends online, even when one is married. But from what you said, it sounds like you are really hoping for more.. when you need to just step back, and see things for what they are. He already has a wife, you are just someone for him to chat with online. There is no reason to be catty about his wife, when all she's wanting to do is save her family. You do not know what goes on in their home, nor do you know how their relationship really is. So, if you are looking for more than just a "friend" I very much suggest that you look for someone closer to your own age (I'm sorry.. but you really sound young) and who is NOT married.
Take care, and God bless!
2006-12-26 15:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by lovable_deb_81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, girl. You have a whole life ahead of you. Leave your internet friend to his wife. She knows him even better than you do and he really deserves an 'earfull' from her. The nerve of him!!
2006-12-26 20:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by garynjanice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋