I told my close female friend that I needed time away from her to clear my head after she kept giving me undecisive answers if we'll go further than friends.She said if that's how I feel then she respects that and that maybe I do need time to sort my head out.(told her I don't know what to think\do anymore about her undecisiveness,am confused,need to clear my head).
The conversation ended on this note, with her saying:
She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.MEANING???
Not spoken for 3 weeks now.(the longest ever!)What she thinking\feeling?Will she EVER speak to me again?What do I do now?
For xmas I sent her a xmas card and a small teddy(saying special friend)-just saying merry xmas and happy new year. I wrote a short message how special and unique she is+ how important the friendship is to me.
Who'd get 1st in touch again?
2006-12-26 06:42:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Would this be ok??OR Would she throw the card\gift in the bin??
She appreciate it??Her reaction to the message??
p.s. gift not delivered yet...
2006-12-26 06:42:40 · update #1
What I am comprehending from your blog is that she took your "saying you need time apart" as backing out as liking her as more than friends. Although, I understand where you are coming from with the indecisiveness. But, sometimes girls just want you to show them that you'll stick around no matter what. I think the gift sounds caring. I can't believe you 2 haven't spoken for 3 weeks though. IF you used to talk on a daily basis, this is a bad sign. HEr comment on the 2 faced and selfish people was an attack on you, although she did it passive aggressively something we girls are pretty good at. She was trying to tell you either she found out some news about you and she doesnt want to go farther or she felt when you said "you needed time" that maybe you were rethinking her as a g/f. I would try again .....if you want to.
2006-12-26 06:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby let that go and this is a woman talking. If she never gave you straight forward answers she has something to hide. Or maybe she doesn't see you and her like that and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. When she was refering to 2faced people maybe she was refering to herself in a way. She sounds like she doesn't want to be selfish and hurt your feelings. Or one other thought maybe she doesn't want to ruin a friendship. You should have already sent that christmas gift its the day after already. Take it to her house and put it on the porch so when she gets home she'll see it and technically since you broke it off you are supposed to call first. If she rushes you off the phone or makes some excuse to get off the phone do as I first said let that go. If she keeps talking maybe she is just scared she might hurt you. Good luck I hope I was helpful and not more confusing!
2006-12-26 14:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i think that you should send the card but not the teddy cos that might give her the impresstion that you are just friends. Second if she is that undecisive and you two are good friends then maybe thats how it should stay!!
2006-12-26 14:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by dan T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you say, you rejected her and sending a card to stay friends may be adding insult to injury. The hard thing is either to commit yourself to a more serious relationship or to let go and let her be. The phrase having your cake and eating it springs to mind.
sorry
2006-12-26 14:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by YoKoGa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is that good a friend, then you have to talk to her and tell her that you do not understand what is going on . she will understand if you are close as you say you are, then you start things from where they left off and maybe it will get even better.
2006-12-26 14:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she was hurt by your words but it basicly is her fault because she wont give you a good answer...so baisly if she doesnt want to talk to you then its her loss not yours. i know what its like to lose a bestfriend , you just have to move on becuase its their loss
2006-12-26 14:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god.
shut up and move on for gods sake leave it with her.
if she wants you she will let you know.
i dont think she is bothered so move on.
2006-12-26 14:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send the stupid gift already. follow her lead.
2006-12-26 14:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was she a mused? Keep it and 'touch her in person!
xo
r
2006-12-26 14:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her..............just go for it
2006-12-26 14:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋