He was involved with her way before i knew him and they broke up and he got w/ me i knew she was pregnant before we got together and i planned on not getting with him but we kinda fell in love and u can't stop that i guess.. she's had the baby & I feel jealous of them because i've always wnted to have my hubbys first child and alot has changed since she was born. im so jealous of his ex. but how do i get over this because i want to be with him and work things out. i see he cares about this baby so much and he's even got a tatoo of her name on his arm now. How do i get over feeling this way and being so jealous...i feel kind of bad because i just want her to go away because i know once she came in the picture i became last in his life, but at the same time i'm happy and proud because he is taking care of his responsiblilty despite how much he hates his baby's mother. can you guys please give me some advice on what to do and how to stop being so jealous of him having a kid by another gir
2006-12-26 06:39:06 · 9 answers · asked by t0xic_n_addictiv3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think you're jealous of the girl or the baby...it's the fact that you aren't going to have your boyfriends first baby. Right? Well, you can't change that now can you? So, do smart thing and get over it. Plan some fun things for you,,your boyfriend and his daughter to do. There can be a lot of "firsts" for you all to do together. For me and my ex who had a son with someone else...we took his son skiing. Which was a first for him. We also did a lot of "first" things with him.
If you can't change something...then deal with it and make it work for you. Good luck to you!
2006-12-26 06:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Michele K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of maturity to be in this type of situation. You should be happy that he is taking care of his responsibility and if you love him then encourage him to continue to do so. What did you think would happen once the baby was born? If you can't handle it then leave before you get in any further. If your boyfriend is including you in the baby's life then it is evident that he wants you to be a part of both his and his child's life but if he isn't including you then I would leave and find someone without any children. You shouldn't be jealous of the child or his ex, because they were there before you came into the picture so, you need too either grow up or get out.
2006-12-26 06:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by juicie813 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many things I could tell you to do, but "jealousy" is a "disease" and you are probably jealous of many things other people have. It IS part of your DNA. One thing you can try to do is this, every time you see the "baby girl" and your "boyfriend" together, remember that the baby is a "reflection" of him and if you truly "love him", it is not hard to love his child. Children have a very special quality inborn in them, and they can sense if someone doesn't like them, even as newborns. So try and be receptive or this relationship will definitely END.Remember, the more he is with his child the better,you should encourage him to bring the baby over and keep her on week-ends. Try it out,it will help you "all" bond.
2006-12-26 06:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who is your boyfriend currently having a relationship with? YOU
who doesn't have to wake up 3 to 4 times every night to feed the baby? YOU
Having a baby is not a game, there is a lot of suffering involved, many hours of no sleep, pain at the moment of birth, less sex, more fights, god you dont know how lucky you are!
2006-12-26 06:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by the air up there 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you knew the situation before hand. Either handle it or get out the relationship, the baby and baby moma ain't going no where!
2006-12-26 06:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation. I totally understand you, but their isn't really much you can do besides grow up and invite the child into your life as much as possible.
2006-12-26 06:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get involved with her. to be with him you are going to have to love this little girl too. it's like having a baby yourself, except someone else gets the saggy boobs and midnight feedings, and you get the fun vists!
2006-12-26 06:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you can get over this by realizing that he loves YOU and learning to love his little girl.
2006-12-26 06:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just know that one day if you two decide to have children that he will be a great father to them also.
2006-12-26 06:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋