My husband evenually wants to have kids one day, and I think we would make good parents, but I am terrified of bearing children. I don't know what it is, but just the thought of having something living inside me terrfies me to the the point of feeling nausious. On top of that a had a bad experience with medical malpractice in my family which has of course made to scared of hospitals. For the past year I've tried watching baby stories and stuff like that on TV, in hope to mentally prepare myself better for having kids. I think it only made things worse. I hoping by the time I think we're ready for kids these feeling will pass, but what if I never really wants kids because I'm so afraid. Anyone else feel like this? Any suggestions?
Thanks
2006-12-26 06:28:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anyone 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
To me, that's the most amazing part of pregnancy... having my baby living inside me. When he/she was kicking, that's awesome. Trust me, your motherly instinct will overcome your fear. Abt fearing of docs, why don't you search for a good OBGYN from now on? So when you're pregnant, you'll be ready to see him/her. It's not easy to find a good doc, but thank God I found a very very good OBGYN whom I could trust and feel very comfortable with. He's so wonderful and gentle! Try to ask other people to recommend a good OBGYN. I did that. Don't just go to one near your house, who has an MD, etc. But out of many people's recommendation!
2006-12-26 08:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what you are feeling cause i've always wanted to have kids, and now i finaly have 2.
once you become pregnant things will change because you imediatly have a responsibility to your child. I quit smoking the day I found out I was pregnant and havent' touched a cigarette in 3 years. It's just something you need to do for the health of your child.
Once you actualy become pregnant i beleive that your fear will just change to joy because your going to be sooo excited that your finaly going to have a child you'll be teeling every one you see. The pregnancy itself doesn't hurt it's exciting and joyful.
And about the fear of delivery (hopefully by speaking to others that'll give you advice you won't make their mistakes): my first I paniced cause i was nervous of the pain and did NOT have an open mind about it and wound up with a c section. BUT with my seconde child I really wanted to have a baby naturaly to expirence the joy of natural delivery and so I had and open mind and got the epidural and didn't feel a thing. It was fantastic. I hope this helps and When you do get pregnant please enjoy every minute of it cause 9 moonths goes by fast and PLEASE PLEASE have and open mind when you go into delivery. Thats all I can say.
Best of luck and don't let the fear change your mind about having children it's the best experience I've ever had. Enljoy it!
2006-12-26 14:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your phobia might pass, but if it doesn't and you decide you are ready for children, adoption is a great way to have kids. It's just like having biological children only without the pregnancy and labor. If youare comfortable with getting pregnant and having a baby, then do, but if not there are other ways to become a parent that are just as rewarding. I adopted my oldest and am pregnant with our 4th child. It was great. Good Luck!
2006-12-26 14:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking with a counselor to help u get over ur fears....i get a little weirded out here in there when i think about my baby actually living inside of me, but it always passes..its the best feeling ever to me. To be honest, ur situation sounds like one of those times when u think sumin is really really bad to go through with, yet once you do it u feel silly lol. on a more serious note, i would definitely look into talking with someone to help u get a better understanding of what's happening while pregnant, and to reassure u that pregnancy is fine. good luck and best wishes to u and ur family.
2006-12-26 14:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by mzsouthernprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The scariest part for me when i got pregnant was the doctors! My family also had a big problem with malpractice that ended up with the death of my grandmother. When i went in for my first appointment with the nurse she noticed how frightened i was and i ended up telling her what happened. She was very nice about it and pointed out that the ob was where all the good stuff happened! yay babies! but now its just another day when i go in! hope that you get over your fear!
2006-12-26 15:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was super scared of giving birth when I was pregnant with my first child. I also watched the shows on TV & that terrified me even more too. But when I was in labor I got an epideral and I didn't feel anything!!!!!!!!! It was such an awesome experience...no pain after the epidural.
2006-12-26 14:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by **sumluv** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once was scared of "something living in me" but there is nothing more beautiful than feeling YOUR child move for the first time inside you. I now have 5 gorgeous children. As far as delivery they have great Meds to make it tolerable. Best of luck to you .
2006-12-26 14:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by mcsmidge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having kids is overrated. Only adds more rat races to your life.
2006-12-26 14:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there's always adoption or even surrogacy. no one says that you have to bear the child yourself.
take care,.
2006-12-26 14:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try adoption if you feel that strongly about bearing your own
2006-12-26 14:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by lizdylan2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋