i went to college 500 miles away from home and spent most of my college life focused on my relationship. i was depressed a lot, and kinda let most of my friendships slip away. now i am home, having just graduated college. it seems all my friends from this city are at different stages of their lives and it is hard for me to reconnect to them. my gf (i'm a bi fem) wants me to move to live with her and her family but i feel i'd be too codependent. but up here, i am kind of lonely and live only with my mom. i still have some friends who want to hang out sometime but never on a regular basis, and i'm not sure if my relationshiip will work out long distance. i also find that i kind of like this other girl who i went to school with and e-mail. where do i go with my life? how do i make new friendships?
2006-12-26 06:06:18 · 3 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The place you are in your life right now is a transition from one phase into another. Its quite understandable that you are feeling the way you do. But it is also obvious that you are ready to get things moving for yourself. So how do you make a change? Probably by trying something entirely new, something you have never done before. It could be a diving course, horseback riding, hiking - ideally an outdoors activity, something physical and not solitary. That would give you a whole new outlook on life and a new set of people to interact with. The trick is to decide that you are going to do it just for yourself and to put aside the thought that you need new friends to be happy and ok with yourself. Being outdoors combined with physical activity is a great natural antidepressant. Plus the feeling of accomplishment that you will get from it. And as you are feeling more secure and assertive, you will find that things are sorting themselves out for you without you even trying. Good luck!
2006-12-26 06:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you sound very confused... just take a deep breath.... let it out... now..
there you go... first of all give up the idea of bi....
get yourself on the straight and narrow.... you are not ready for any kind of move... nor should you right now... focus on things as they come... do not rush into anything hastily...
2006-12-26 14:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life yourself, woman.
2006-12-26 14:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Buchyex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋