He was involved with her way before i knew him and they broke up and he got w/ me i knew she was pregnant before we got together and i planned on not getting with him but we kinda fell in love and u can't stop that i guess.. she's had the baby & I feel jealous of them because i've always wnted to have my hubbys first child and alot has changed since she was born. im so jealous of his ex. but how do i get over this because i want to be with him and work things out. i see he cares about this baby so much and he's even got a tatoo of her name on his arm now. How do i get over feeling this way and being so jealous...i feel kind of bad because i just want her to go away because i know once she came in the picture i became last in his life, but at the same time i'm happy and proud because he is taking care of his responsiblilty despite how much he hates his baby's mother. can you guys please give me some advice on what to do and how to stop being so jealous of him having a kid by another gir
2006-12-26 04:39:53 · 8 answers · asked by t0xic_n_addictiv3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you think you could leave him, consider it? I know you love him and it will be hard. You knew she was pregnant and he's doing the right thing and all that is great. I understand all of that but I think the best thing for you to do is to leave him. I feel like this is just the start of your "headache" take the Advil (EXIT) now.
There are many great guys without kids. You can have fun dating instead of being @ step mom and suffering through these feelings. Just think one day you can have your first child with a man who has no other children and your baby will his world. I would settle for no less.
2006-12-26 04:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look, I'll bet you're a very young and caring person. But if I were you, I would get far, far away from this guy and his so called ex's baby, and the sooner the better. Why? Because this guy can't love you and he doesn't. He's just using you for awhile.
How can I say these things? Because, look at the facts without all the emotion and sentiment. He "knocked-up" this other gal, and then all of a sudden, they started hating each other. It so doesn't add up. He's not stable, he's a "user."
You don't have a baby with one woman until you know her like the back of your hand and commit to spending the rest of your life with this other half of you. Anything short of this is counterfeit "love." It's all about lust and selfishness and heated passions but for a moment. It will dazzle for but a little bit, but it will not endure. It can't. It's self-will run riot.
Save yourself the burden and heartache of all this pending pain and turmoil, and get out now. Find a real man who's truly in to you, not some "fly by night" that donates his sperm to one woman and than goes on to another woman, and than the next, and the next, and the next. It won't end. He's already proven what he's all about, and you deserve so much better, if you'll only dig down deep and find your self-respect. You can do it.
2006-12-26 05:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok well you already knew he was having a baby with her.but he is with you not her.a baby is a baby.his baby should bring out love in you just because you love him.try not to think of it as her kid its his baby too.and your in his life.besides you give her what she wants if you get jelous.you should be proud you have man that takes care of his buiesness regardless of the situation.he probably needs you support too you just dont think so right now cause of the new baby it will all fall in to place it always does.and as far as having his first baby.When you have a baby together it will be your first baby together,even his first...with you.and it will mean all the more to him if you support him and be there for him no matter what...behind every good man is a good woman just remember that..hope everything works out for you!
2006-12-26 06:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by shinelikethesun23 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweety if you knew that she was going to have a baby before you fell in love then well yes you have to deal with it , half of this world is about baby daddys ,babys mommas its reality of 2006-2007-and there will be more ! to come. jealous of him loving his child ? you should be proud that he loves his child !that is showing you he has daddy responsibilities to do and that is a good thing , now if he didnt care about that child ! that is something totally different ,,then you should have second thoughts of having his baby ! marry marry marry first of all should come first then children .holla back
2006-12-26 06:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by hottylee38 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, once a baby is in the picture, that changes things. i know i would be jealous as well. if i were you, i would be crushed but i would probably move on eventually. i know thats not what you want to hear, but you knew she was having her baby before you got involved with him, so you have to either deal with it, or move on.
2006-12-26 05:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Essie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you just have to deal with it or leave him if it hurts you so much. you have to accept him and the child if you want to be with him.
2006-12-26 04:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you accept him you accept the lugage that comes with it!
just deal with it!
it's not easy that's why i never really got involbed with other men with kids! did once!
2006-12-26 04:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
have a baby with him!
2006-12-26 04:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋