We go to the same school and I told some of his friends and my friends that my step brother was touching me but I was lying. I told my parents the same thing and wrote it in my diary incase they read it so that they would believe it. I posted it as my last question here. I lied because I am tired of him snitching on me. My parents told me I cant hang out at the closet (a place at school) and I do anyways. Well my stepbrother hangs out there too but he's allowed to because he's been hanging out there for a couple years. I dont think thats fair. I sshould be able to hang out where ever I want to at school. I finally told my parents I lied about my step brother. and now my parents wont let me go anywhere or do anything. My dad works and I heard my stepmom say she doesnt want to deal with me. Should I ask to live with my mom even though I rather live here? My mom lives far from here. I dont want to switch schools.
2006-12-26 04:30:01 · 16 answers · asked by Metallica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I only told the truth because my step mom figured out I lied because I told her it happened in the summer time but my brother wasn't even here and then I wrote it down and said it happened a couple months ago. I know it was wrong but now they expect me to go tell everyone at school i lied. If I do they will think im just trying to cover up for him anyways. How do I fix it? Some friends are giving him attitude and going up to him and telling him off. I know I deserve to be grounded but my step mom told me that im lucky she's not my age because she would clean the street with my face if she was. Now she tries to be nice but i know she hates me and my step brother doesnt seem mad but she told him to try to be mature about it not to be mean.
2006-12-26 05:13:35 · update #1
We all make mistakes, sometimes very embarrassing. I'm sure it took a lot of courage to tell the truth. I say suck it up and try to learn something from the experience. This is character building, and unfortunately most character building experiences are uncomfortable. You will live through this and be happier in the end. Just do your best to make it right with your family. Don't run away, it never helps anything.
2006-12-26 04:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all I know is that what you did is terrible, that is a very serious acusation (sp) you could of thought up anything else in the world and it would have been better then that, its also wrong because that does happen to people and when it does it hurts them alot and because of people like you justice is not always served and or harder to believe, I think because of you poor judgment and thats being nice you should take the punishment and just deal with it and be quite, time will pass and things will pretty much go back to normal although because of the nature of your lie things will never go back the way they were and thats just somethign your going to have to deal with and learn from, example I became an addict in my mid 20's and life for me with the family will never be the same and thats just the way it is no matter how long I'm behaving and not stealing or whatever it will always been in the back of there mind that its possible and they will never again put it past me and thats just something I have to accept and just know i'm doing the right thing now, its life all you can do is live right now and be honast your going to have to be mature here and live with it, as far as the issue with where you go now that you chose to deal with it wrong your gonna have to just live with it wether it fair or not kinda to make up for what you did, so its on you now, Good Luck Kim
2006-12-26 12:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying about such things is horrible. You could have gotten him in a huge amount of trouble for no reason.
Your step mom probably said that out of anger and shock that you would lie about her son like that. The older you get the less protective they will get.
It's good they won't let you go hardly anywhere now cuz it seems that you arn't mature enough to make good decisions. Maybe if you show more maturity they will losin up with time.
In the mean time....don't lie like that agian....it's horrible.
2006-12-26 12:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you have made your bed and now you have to lie in it. No pun intended. What you did was very irresponsible, and now your parents are making you pay for what you did. Lying about sexual advances is something that could have ruined your step-brother's relationships with a lot of people. It's probably for the best that your parents keep you at home and give you a fair dose of what you deserve.
2006-12-26 12:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, you should stick it out until they are done punishing you and then things should get better. You shouldn't leave if you would rather live where you are. You lied about quite a big thing which could've got your step-brother in a hell of a lot of trouble. You can't expect them to be ok with that. You deserve some punishment for that (that sounds harsh but you do) and you can't worm out of it. You won't help yourself by moving.
2006-12-26 12:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a b*tch! Do you have any idea how much trouble your step-brother could have ended up in if everyone believed you?! HE COULD'VE ENDED UP IN JAIL! I don't blame your step-mom from not wanting to have anything to do with you. You messed with her son! So he snitches on you. Boo-freakin'-hoo! He gets to hang out somewhere your dad doesn't want you to. Cry me a river! Life isn't fair, but there's no reason (and no excuse) for doing such a horrible thing! I hope your dad sends you back to your mom to give your step-brother some relief from you, you spoiled little brat!
Edit: OMG!!! You posted about this here 2 months ago, saying he was touching you?! Ugh! I wish I could literally knock some sense into you! It's people like you that make it hard for girls who are honestly getting molested to be believed!
2006-12-26 12:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It is very bad what you did. You could ruin people's life with those types of lies. Your actions prove that you are immature and selfish. Your parents are right in punishing you that way. Apologize to your parents and your step brother for lying. Think and learn your lesson.
2006-12-26 12:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by ppv918 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to examine your behaviour and accept how wrong it was for you to make this potentailly serious accusation. It's parents jobs to set boundaries whether you like it or not. You appear to be very immature, perhaps that is a bigger problem. It is right you should be punished after behaving so badly, suffering the consequences of our actions is what makes us behave better in future.
2006-12-26 12:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, that was a terrible thing to say if it's not true. Do know how much trouble you could get your step brother in? I can see why your step Mom is angry. You need to be punished. She probable just said that in the heat of the moment, and didn't really mean it.
Just say your sorry and take your punishment.
2006-12-26 12:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont know how old are you but you seem to have hidden liking for your step brother.Get over it dear and find another friend and you may not have to to such legths and efforts to be close to him.Otherwise you may end up in trouble at home and at school.
2006-12-26 12:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by Amaay41 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋