If you were pretty sure that your partner were in the relationship just to bide time and/or had no intentions of settling down and you wanted to. What would you do? If the relationship were good, with the rough spots that most all relationships had, would you stay invovlved and work through the rough spots even if you knew that their were no promise for the future?
2006-12-26 04:19:35 · 5 answers · asked by tana 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would first and foremost sit down with them and discuss their intentions. Tell them that you are not attacking them nor are you making any snap judgments based on their decisions. If they do not have the same intentions as you than you can decide if it is time for you to move on or if you want to invest more time into it. You don't, however, want to assume what they are thinking. And I wouldn't stay forever or much longer, if the case is that they are indeed biding their time.
Rough spots, however, are good, they create passion! And everyone needs passion, so I wouldn't base everything on that. If you find out their true intentions you will ultimately know what to do. Good luck!
2006-12-26 04:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jamie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil just had an episode about this (and yes, I think he's is great, even if other people make fun of him/me for watching his show!) First, discuss with the person your intentions of settling down/living together/marriage/etc. Then ask what their intentions are. If they are not ready to settle down, tell them that you are ready and that you are moving on. If they change their mind, they can come find you, and if you're still available, settle down with you. He also mentioned not "buying the cow while getting the milk for free". If your partner is getting all the benefits of settling down with out the commitment, then why would they commit?
2006-12-26 05:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by KS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably stay in the relationship until I found someone new. I would be shopping around for someone following a path closer to my own. That's a pretty big part of a relationship.
2006-12-26 04:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I saw the relationship going no where I would have myself the heartache of that person ending things in the future and just leave before they have the chance to.
2006-12-27 05:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd run for the hills, but that's my solution for most relationship problems.
2006-12-26 05:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋