my fiance wants her sister to be there, why should i even go when she is getting the ultrasound, they are going to be all gushing and excited and i am going to be sitting in the background.
2006-12-26 04:08:01 · 22 answers · asked by ryan s 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sorry to be on her side but I think that if two people share a special bond then they should be included as well. Sisters share that special bond. Personally we had myself and my fiance and his mother and my mom all in the room. I also had all of these people in the room with me during my last few dr visits and in the room when my water was broke (along with a few others). If you don't feel comfortable with others being there with you then you should talk to her and explain why and maybe she will understand.
2006-12-26 04:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by reptmd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister went with me, as well as my husband. It includes the sibling when they are feeling most left out. Her sister is getting married and having a baby so I'm sure she feels pushed into the backround. Just set some ground rules. Like you are the one next to your fiance and that your future sister in law goes in the back. She may have questions that you are too afraid to ask. It's a great bonding experience and gives her a feeling of acceptance which will help when you ask her to babysit....LOL Good Luck. Bottom line: Yours and your fiances baby, your and your fiances rules.
2006-12-26 04:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the main reason why you should be in the room when they are giving the ultrasound because you and your fiance made this bundle of joy so you should be rejoycing in the room because children are gifts and if you dont want your fiance sister in the room maybe you and your fiance need to discuss all the people you want to be in the room when they tell you the sex of the baby
2006-12-26 04:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rachael 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why should you go? Because you are the father of this child.
Who should be in the room? Better to talk this over calmly with your gf and tell her how you feel. That's the only way you two are going to work this out. You cannot assume she knows how you feel about this, and maybe if you explained it to her, she would understand and tell the sister to stay home, if you feel strongly about it.
At any rate, if you two are going to get married, you will need to work out how you handle your famililal relationships so now is a good time to start working things out and making compromises, etc.
So sit down and talk with your finance! Good luck.
2006-12-26 04:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by EmLa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your fiancee is close to her sister. I am real close to my sisters also. Talk to your fiancee about the fact you would like it to be just you and her at first. Have the ultrasound videotaped and than let her take it and gush with her sister. Careful don't make it a confrontation, let her know how you feel. Good luck and congratulations.
2006-12-26 04:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your big boy undies on and grow up- If you feel this jealous now then what is going to happen when the baby is born and you two lose all the attention to the baby completely? Enjoy the moment and share that with everyone having a baby is a joyous occasion
2006-12-26 04:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband cannot wait to find out the sex of the baby. We will both be happy either way but of course he's gunning for a boy to keep his last name alive and would name the boy after his father who has passed.
For us it will be just my husband and I. You althrthough do not sound very excited to be a father and as our baby wan't planned, we have both learn to accept it and are now both very ecited. I hope by the time the baby comes you've come around because right now you don't sound as though you want to be a very active part of his/her life!
2006-12-26 04:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by kista_1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I found out we had my parents and my brother there to share in the joy and excitement. If your girlfriend and her sister want to gush, that is great, this a HAPPY time. I really hope that you will be "gushing" too!
2006-12-26 04:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by mom-knows-best 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be in the room Finding out second hand is not going to be as exciting as being there whether or not you are the only other person in the room!
2006-12-26 04:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by peeps 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are a little jealous and you want this to be a personal experience with you and your fiance. That is completely normal. You should just sit down with her and tell her that you want this to be a beautiful experience between you and her. you would like it to be just you, the baby, her and the untrasound tech in the room! That is the way it should be if you feel that way!!! Good LucK!!!!
2006-12-26 04:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy of 1, #2 on the way! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋