I'm 26Indian & his 35white.His CFO of a big company.We ve been secretly dating cuz one of the executives is racist but is retiring may 2007.He has an opportunity of being 1 of the top 3 executives.He is being trained for the top job.He says,he will miss this opportunity if the boss finds out about us.There's a guy in his company who hasn't been promoted because his married to a black woman.I understand him wanting to get ahead but this has been going on for a year.I DON'T think his cheating, SEX IS STILL GREAT, i ve keys to his house,i spend everynight with him, i ve unlimited access to his funds and keys to all his cars & he proposed this thanksgiving.i ve met his family.I DON'T go to company parties with him.1 of my white friends poses as his g/friend for company parties & business trips to europe.He says we ll go public when the boss retires.I NOW THINK MY friend who poses as his girl wants my man.She talks about him with excitement.what should i do? what do you think is going on?
2006-12-26 04:02:31 · 11 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sugar, you haven't been "dating" him for a year. you've been used for a year. men aren't ashamed of their girlfriends, they're ashamed of their booty calls. you, my dear, are just a friend with benefits to this man. Walk away - better yet, RUN.
and dump your friend while you're at it.
they both suck.
2006-12-26 04:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If he loved you he wouldn't let his desire for promotion over-ride you. He is about the money and status. You are in second place and you always will be. It is possible that your "friend" and him have a little something going on the side, but he is already married to his job and his money anyway. This friend of yours is more convenient for him because he can be seen publicly with him. Even after his boss retires, a company like this will just have someone else that will create the same problems for you. Do yourself a favor and get out of this situation before you are in too deep and get your heart broke even worse. You don't need to put yourself in the middle of a group of racists.
2016-05-23 07:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the promotion thing, I'm sure he doesn't want o pass that up and once he's promoted he can take you there and show you off! That'll leave eggs all over people's faces! And as far as your best friend, she is not truly a friend if she acts on her feelings, and maybe she can't help posing as a gf for too long considering they are at these parties together all the time. Talk with both of them about this.
2006-12-26 04:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy is not telling you the truth.There is no such thing as Office Needs to hide your personal relationship.He is using you for his evening and night pleasures and unlimited sex without any commitment.If you are an Indian Girl you should know the bitterness and depression you will feel when he goes away for another girl,who is already on the scene.
One year is already a long period to keep your relationship a secret.He is not going to lose anything but you will and it will hurt you greatly.I think you should insist on making your relation public and what exactly he wants you to do?Remember this is your future.Take control of your life.
2006-12-26 04:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Amaay41 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all that's your fault to allow another women go with YOUR man to trips and parties is something wrong with you?I don't care if she your "best friend" or your sister. You never allow other women take your place for what ever reason.If your man has to go to parties and trips a lone so then let him. You need to stop that now. First tell your man, your friend will no longer be going with you on trips or company parties. Tell him you just don't feel right about it no more. And please don't allow him to talk you down about her still being his fake girlfriend for the company. And when you tell her tell her you made a mistake and you will no longer be going with "my boyfriend" to parties or trips tell her you where wrong and it won't happen no more. Please don't allow her to make you feel dumb or jealous in anyway. Stand your ground for this one. You allowed this and now you have to swim your way out, but do it with class and not anger. And as far as your boyfriend hiding you from his company we all no that's wrong but right now he has to. Let him get his promotion and let the boss retire and you will be able to stand by his side at party's and go on trips. But I am telling you do not allow this other women to go NO MORE. And her talking about him with excitement she could be liking him and the life he leads. Or maybe she really excited being in Europe. Who knows?Why in the world would you allow another women go on a trip with your man?Why Why Why?If she did sleep with him or likes him that would be your fault. After all you allowed other women to spend time that was yours with YOUR man.Get a hold of this now. Or it could be her with the keys to his house and cars etc...STOP IT NOW. I don't know you but your story is made me so mad. Don't try to be so nice and please your boyfriend and "your" friend should of told you no from the beginning that she was not going on no trips with your man.She must be white? If my friend told me some **** like that, to go on trips with her man and to party's I would think she crazy. As a friend I would of never did it. Please do the right thing
2006-12-26 04:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of this seems skeptical to me. But, the facor that makes me think he may really want to marry you is the fact that you've met his family (as his girlfriend I hope!). But, you need to stop letting people play his girlfriend. It starts out as an act and then it's not an act anymore. Let him know that he needs to make solo appearances from now on. And let that "friend" of yours know who he belongs to.
2006-12-26 12:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Do_As_Infinity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe he should 'break' with his 'girlfriend' (the girl that poses as it), and present himself alone to the next events, to prepare the way, and in May, surprise! I've met the perfect girl and she's Indian, but love hasn't frontiers...
2006-12-26 04:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by esther c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess what your dating a two timing asshole thats what. He's ******* your g/f thats what. His job is more important than you is'nt it?. His friends are more important than you arn't they? You run a very distant last, eh!? Still your probally good in bed and when he marries the other gal he will still love you wont he?Hahahahaha
2006-12-26 06:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he doesn't need someone to pose as "his girl." He should end that farse. Then, you've waited a year, why can't you just wait until May?
2006-12-26 04:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a word with the white stand-in. Let her know where she stands.
2006-12-26 04:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋