I'm 26Indian & his 35white.His CFO of a big company.We ve been secretly dating cuz one of the executives is racist but is retiring may 2007.He has an opportunity of being 1 of the top 3 executives.He is being trained for the top job.He says,he will miss this opportunity if the boss finds out about us.There's a guy in his company who hasn't been promoted because his married to a black woman.I understand him wanting to get ahead but this has been going on for a year.I DON'T think his cheating, SEX IS STILL GREAT, i ve keys to his house,i spend everynight with him, i ve unlimited access to his funds and keys to all his cars & he proposed this thanksgiving.i ve met his family.I DON'T go to company parties with him.1 of my white friends poses as his g/friend for company parties & business trips to europe.He says we ll go public when the boss retires.I NOW THINK MY friend who poses as his girl wants my man.She talks about him with excitement.what should i do? what do you think is going on?
2006-12-26 04:01:15 · 10 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this friend of yours isnt really a friend. Drop her. He should have gone alone and not taken her to Europe. I don't care how good th money, sex,or access is. He doesn't respect or truly care about you. If he did, he would demand the respect of his bosses or settle for not getting the position. People you really care about come first. that job means too much to him. and just as quickly as he gets it. It can be taken away. So don'r expect him to all of a sudden go public. Meeting family isn't anything. I once brought my boyfriend to thanksgiving when i was engaged and family won't say a word. their loyalty is to family. (sorry. not you) please before you end up a secret wife and your friend becomes a mistress, Make some decisions. you are more valuable than that.
2006-12-26 04:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by beautyzhername 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he wouldn't let his desire for promotion over-ride you. He is about the money and status. You are in second place and you always will be. It is possible that your "friend" and him have a little something going on the side, but he is already married to his job and his money anyway. This friend of yours is more convenient for him because he can be seen publicly with him. Even after his boss retires, a company like this will just have someone else that will create the same problems for you. Do yourself a favor and get out of this situation before you are in too deep and get your heart broke even worse. You don't need to put yourself in the middle of a group of racists.
2006-12-26 04:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are being treated like the other woman and your not. You are giving way to much to this relationship and getting little in return but good sex. If that is all you want then there is not problem but if you expect this guy to marry you then I think you will be hurt in the long run. You need to back away from him. Tell him that you are having a problem with him pretending that you mean nothing to him. Stop giving away the candy store. You need to date others. You deserve to be with a man who thinks that you are the first and most important person in his life cause this guy does not think of you like that.
2006-12-26 04:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen Janet,
I truly think this man loves you. He comes home to you everynight and has given you unlimited access to money, that is not something he would do if he did not care about you. I can tell he make alot of money in his current position. MOST IMPORTANTLY HE ASKED FOR YOUR HAND IN MARRIAGE that means, you mean alot to him. I also think he knows that you maybe doubting his intentions, so he proposed to you to prove how much he wants to be with you. You have held on for one year, it's just five months to go. You obviously love him otherwise you would not put up with this. I also think you are a great woman and you are not after his money because you would not put up with SUCH A SHITY AND VERY PAINFUL SECRET and he maybe has noticed that quality in. You are standing by your man like a rock. It's sad that in this day and age people are still racist but hey what can we do.. Hold on to your man, it's just five months away.
BAD NEWS
I think that your man is sleeping with your SO CALLED friend although he loves. You are the one who allowed this to happen. You gave them the opportunity to cheat. Yes your friend is excited about your man because they are going to Europe and companies parties. She wants to be you. Put a stop to that FAKE g/friend **** and let him go alone. Most women would take your man. She is not your friend end the communication with her as soon as Possible before she becomes his Wife.
2006-12-26 06:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn that's tricky. That sucks that he works for a company like that but if he gets his promotion then that will all change and you can be proud to stand by your man. Although I would be weary of any women around a man that is going to the top. I wouldn't say anything to her just yet I would however ask him does he think she likes him. Because I doubt he would allow you to all his funds and things if he was cheating that would just be stupid.
And women can be manipulative they can smell success like blood in the water. they become sharks sorry to say... If you have faith in him just hold on its only till May then you will know for sure what is good.
2006-12-26 04:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy in Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one. ls he just using his company as an excuse? Because if this is true and he won't get the promotion because he is with you, he can take them to court. That's discrimination and employers are not allowed to do that. Now the hard thing is to prove that this is what they are doing. But if his work comes before you, l don't think he really cares about you. You should come first in his life.
Now if you are willing to wait, that's great but l don't think you should. And watch out for your so-called friend, l really do think she wants him, maybe he is cheating on you with her. I would talk to your friend and see what she has to say about it.
Good luck to you
2006-12-26 04:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow try to find out if the story about the guy married to the black woman is true and you'll know.Somehow I find the senario weird cause no matter who you married to doesn't affect your intellect or the way you work.He could really be playing you in a nice way because why does your friend get so excited...
Goodluck...
2006-12-26 04:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That girl likes your husband but your husband doesn't like her, you should just wait till the boss retires and then announce publicly that you are dating the hottest CEO ever :)
2006-12-26 04:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by John O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Creepy..
2006-12-26 04:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is touching him in places where she shouldnt be. OH MY!!!
2006-12-26 04:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋