I have known this woman for 1 1/2 months and we have been talking about moving in together. I am madly in love with her and I know that she is in love with me. We talked about it and since I am always at her house, we figured it was a waste to keep my apartment and pay rent and utilities when I am not even there. My lease runs out January 31, so by the time we would be completely moved in together we would know eachother 3 months. I have never been happier in a relationship and she tells me she can't stand to think of waking up or going to sleep without me. Everything about out relationship feels right so I think this would be a good move...you only live once right? Is it worth the risk?
2006-12-26 03:47:30 · 23 answers · asked by Julz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I should add that this is a lesbian relationship.
2006-12-26 04:04:57 · update #1
I would approach this strictly as a business deal in writing so if the relationship falls through you will still have a place to live or at least have time to find another place
2006-12-26 03:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by me2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think people move in with each other too quickly these days but that's just me. I would say there are a lot of considerations here. Is she a homeowner? If so, would you have a lease or just contribute to the expenses? If its a rented apartment, will you get on the lease? How will bills be paid?What is your financial situation and credit history and what is hers? I have had too many friends move in with someone (boyfriend girlfriend or just friend) who come to discover that the person's credit history is atrocious. As long as you can discuss the money and how your living situation would work, you should be okay. Good luck. :)
2006-12-26 11:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by olemisstasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm i am all for love, but you hardly know this woman. what if the two of you get into an argument and she puts you out? would your name be on the lease? where could you go? its hard enough for couples that have been together for 3-4 years to move in together, i can only imagine how difficult it will be for 2 people who would only know each other for 3 months, to move in....but hey i live on the cautious side, so do what you want, just be happy!!! and good luck to your relationship and the move-in, if you do decide to.
2006-12-26 11:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and l started dating a little over a year ago and soon l was spending all my weekends at his place. After a month or two l moved in with him and we are still together now. If you feel in your heart that it is something that can work out (which is the way l felt) then go for it.
Good luck to you
2006-12-26 11:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of how long you have known that person, or how long you have been dating. Moving in with someone is a big step... You really do find out a long of things about that person. My parents would always tell me, their true colors come out when you live with them! and its so true, its so different then spending the night, or staying over for a week or so. You only live once, so go for it.
2006-12-26 11:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Get to know him.. let him annoy you first and if you can deal with his annoying ways or still love the things you hate about him.. then you will be okay. But do not move in unless you are sure!
Better yet, take a long road trip with him. If during the road trip he doesn't say much, or he aggravates you, then you are in for trouble. Make sure you analyze everything.
2006-12-26 11:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by complex1simple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My other half and i knew each other as acquaintances for years but we moved in together after just 2 weeks of dating ( i had been thrown out of my parents house) . It will be 4 years this April. It can work , so go for it.
2006-12-26 11:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by edensappletree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a crapshoot, I and my squeeze moved in together after knowing each other a month. It is 2 years later and things are great. I had previously lived with others after longer and shorter introductory periods and they were dismal failures.
Essentially, who knows what the future brings?
2006-12-26 12:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I lived together from 1 month on and we dated for 6 years and have been married for 2 and are now expecting our first baby⥠I say trust your heart and it'll lead you in the right direction. Make sure she feels the same and you're good to go! Good Luck â¥
2006-12-26 11:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I moved in together after we had dated for 6 months. We got married 6 months later and have been married for 4 years now. I think you only live once and should follow your heart...
2006-12-26 11:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by ~*SuMmEr*~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋